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She called me back a week after the breakup...now?

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Hey,

I have the following problem: A week ago my ex broke up with me, and I was not taking it well but I agreed with her that the breakup would be best for both of us. Since then I have committed to the no-contact-rule which Im still committed to after reading 10 to 20 different advice givers considering getting your ex back. Yesterday I gave all her stuff to a friend of hers and that was it. New beginning...untill yesterday at night!Almost a week after the breakup, she called me at night. She was like "I dont know why Im calling" and I was like " Im surprised myself but I still think its best if we committed to our own lives for now and focus to get a grip on our lives and then reseek contact if we are ready"...and she agreed to it and all...but then she came up with a question about facebook and me adding other females, and I was "Im just adding people I know"...having to justify myself and then again she agreed that it was a stupid thing to bring up and that "all is over anyway". But I told her that I understand her and didnt make a big deal out of it. I asked her if she got all her stuff and she was like "You really forgot nothing" not sounding all to happy about that either and I was just "Yeah"...then she asked me about going on a trip since I've told her friend whom I gave the stuff to. so basically whats clear is that she is thinking about me and she's even maybe regretting her decision which would probably be the reason why she called in the first place. The conversation was about 5 min. long and the last thing I told her was making sure that we had no contact and that we would hear eachother in the future...What do I do now? I really wanna have conctact but I need space to learn from my mistakes and to be back in life!...How do I keep going? I thank you for your patience.

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OJeey

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I really wanna have conctact but I need space to learn from my mistakes and to be back in life!...

 

You know what you want, and you were right to insist NC with her. Even better, she agreed to it. I think she may try contacting you further for a little while but it's up to you to ignore / remind her and say "I'm not ready to speak with you yet". You're in a good place mentally. Just focus on yourself for right now, hang out with friends (really helps), do your own thing.

 

Good luck.

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