yume Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 (edited) I don't want her to think all I'm interested in is persuading her.But that's what you're doing...by writing a letter.....I know you're thinking that there are still some things left that you can do to change her mind, but it isn't going to happen... When I broke up with my ex the first time he continued to pursue me and everytime he did I would say no. That was, in part, because I wanted to be the one to say "okay, let's try again", I wanted to approach him myself, I wanted to make the official decision that it was something that I wanted to do. So, eventually, I did it. I'm not saying this is going to happen, but my point is that if you keep trying to pursue her she's going to say no every time. You haven't even taken some time away from each other. You need a giant cement wall of NC for some time. I really don't get the vibe from your fb chat that she is remotely interested in a relationship with you anymore. Yeah, she cares about you, and definitely doesn't want to hurt you (even though she is), but she can't deny the fact that it's not working. I think you need to move on and find someone who can really make you happy without the drama and yo-yoing. Also, STOP HAVING SEX WITH HER. Sorry if it's not what you wanted to hear. I deserve to be with someone who wants to be with me. Yes, you do. But I think she has got a few things wrong in the way she is thinking... Stop caring what she thinks. Move on. She doesn't care about what you think, so why should you? Edited April 20, 2010 by yume
ohwhyme Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Buddy, I think you are trying too hard. You've put a lot of effort into making it work. I saw your threads and your posts, there has to be a point where you just to stop and go on with your life. All the contact is just making it worse you should really just go all out NC on her.
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