tavoludo Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 Hi everyone, After a quiet lonely day full of different feelings i decided to come to the local book store just to get out of the house and i stumbled upon the book one member of this forum recommended, Getting Back Together. For those who still think there is hope and more importantly love between you i can only say that you should read it. I'm in the 2nd chapter and i'm ready to take this baby home, it is really comforting and explains i great detail what some of us have been already doing. Read it guys, you will feel better
mikeymad Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 ah, if only it was a book, and not the other person that would make all the difference...
LisaUk Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 What is it about? Just about how to get back together if that is what both people want?
tojaz Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 Its about standing for your marriage when the other partner walks.
Author tavoludo Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 (edited) It is a great source of support, not only because it gives you hope in case there is still love in the relationship but also because it portraits the separation not as the end of the world but as a new beginning for both or yourself. If the problems surrounding the couple are fixable, the time apart can help you to take a look at the relationship in a proactive way and more importantly analyze yourself to see on what you failed. Instead of trying to focus on your despair and how much it sucks to be alone, it tries to laid down the foundation for a better marriage and self growth and improvement. Personally, I believe that her decision in not taking me back right away has been one of the best things that has happened to me because it opened my eyes on how bad i had screwed up. The problems were from both of us but by not taking me back it has made me realize my own mistakes and has in a way pushed me to accept that I need to be a better person, not only for her but for the people around me. I know the things I have to change, I'm not saying it was only me but I indeed have to change and be a better person, and I can accept it now. My anger has hurt people that love me and before I thought I could manage it, I COULDN'T. Since our break up, I have been seeing a counselor and started reading anger management books that shown be that even if we don't get back together (that I truly wish we will), I will end up a better person overall. It gives a new perspective to the word separation, whether it was your fault, his/her fault or both's. As long as love is alive, there is hope and I truly believe there is still love between us. Letting go, learn and get back together seems now a good idea (illogic for some but makes sense to me). Edited April 19, 2010 by tavoludo
Author tavoludo Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 (edited) On a different note, after letting her breath and giving her space and peace. It's been a couple of days that she is the one who contacts me to ask if I could do some stuff for her, not stuff that had to be done like financial issues, but stuff that easily she could have done it herself or ask somebody else like a friend or family member to help her out. I don't want to get my hopes up but I hope that by giving her space and peace, she is beginning to open her heart and has started to trust me and in a way she just wants to keep in touch to let the healing begin. I don't really know what to think, what do you think? Edited April 19, 2010 by tavoludo
tojaz Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Dont know Tav, could be a lot of things. Just take it for what it is and don't read anything more into it. Also, don't be so quick to run to her aide. Living without you means not having you to help out. TOJAZ
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