QkO123 Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 Hello everyone, this is my first thread, although I've been trolling the forums for a few days and find the advice and comments very useful. Anyway, about five weeks ago I started dating this girl. We were friends for about 6 months, and for personal reasons (not having anything to do with past relationships), I wasn't able to ask her out until around 6 weeks ago. Long story short, we start dating and things are going pretty well. She's a teacher, I'm an accountant, and we both have pretty full schedules (mine has gotten a lot better since Thursday, thank God tax season is over!!). So here is my dilemma: A week after we start dating, she finds out she was admitted to Law School in Atlanta (we both live in Miami, currently). This has created a lot of stress on our blooming relationship, because I know for a fact I face tremendous fear in growing close to her, only to have her move away in August, and I feel like she does also. We've spoken about this. She has engaged in an LDR previously, I haven't. We've both tentatively agreed to take it slow and see where things go, and when the time comes and a decision needs to be made, we'll make it. I feel like there is definite long-term potential, yet I can't ignore the fact that a relationship requires frequent physical contact for it to remain nurtured. I've heard too many horror stories about LDRs gone terribly wrong not to dread one.... SO what to do? We have not been physically intimate yet, partly because I think we both fear taking that next step. Should I just sweep this under the carpet and continue dating her? Should I end it? What are my options, as you see it? Thanks much in advance! Ruben
SomewhatExperienced Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 Long distance relationships are hard to maintain at the best of times. It's going to be extremely hard to build the foundation of a relationship that will survive a LDR in only a matter of a few months before she leaves.
skydiveaddict Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 LDR's have never bothered me. But you two are uncomfortable with it. So if things keep going smoothly, move to Atlanta. You can always leave if you dont like it. But sometimes you only get one shot at true love in this life. So go for it
Hot Carl Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 Just go for it. Don't fear. Good matches don't come along every day. Why waste one because you're worried about something that hasn't happened yet. If you develop a strong relationship, then maybe the long distance can be overcome. Maybe you can move to Atlanta as well. Carpe babem! Sieze the babe!
Recommended Posts