EyeAlone Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 My story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t226973/ So here's some additional necessary background info... I'm in my 3rd year of medical school, he's in his 1st (there are 4 years total). We dated for 3 years and then 0.5 years long distance when he moved 2,000mi to go to school. During your 4th year of school, you can do electives at different schools across the country. After 4 years of school, you graduate and start training aka "residency." Anyway...we've been broken up for 2 weeks and I'm practicing NC. He's been tossing me breadcrumbs via emails. Today I got an email from him saying that he wants me to do an elective at his school. WTF. When we were still in a relationship, my original plan was to do an elective at his school during my 4th year, then graduate, and then do my residency at his school so that way we wouldn't be long distance anymore. But I made it quite clear to him that I WILL NOT move up there if we are just going to be friends. That's bogus. He doesn't need me to move up there to figure out his feelings about me. During the 3 years that weren't long distance, we lived together for 2 of them. He should know how he feels by now. Any opinions or comments?
2sunny Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 he can "want" anything. doesn't mean you need to go along with what he thinks he wants. do what's best for your long term future.
Author EyeAlone Posted April 18, 2010 Author Posted April 18, 2010 I'm just mad and frustrated and confused because 1) He keeps breaking NC although he initially agreed to NC and 2) He KNOWS that I don't want to move up there if we're just friends He's being so selfish
2sunny Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 I'm just mad and frustrated and confused because 1) He keeps breaking NC although he initially agreed to NC and 2) He KNOWS that I don't want to move up there if we're just friends He's being so selfish that;s why you do what's best for you. he's going to always look out or what he wants. doesn't mean you need to be willing to go along with what's best for him. your future... take care of that first.
D-Lish Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 Any opinions or comments? Yes- Don't make any sacrifices or decisions based on what could be. Make your decisions based on what is best for you.
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