dazed1989 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 How would you avoid being a doormat or clingy person?
Rorschach Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 To avoid being clingy you have to be able to better read your partner and simply learn non verbal cues for when they need their own space. That just comes with practice and viewing a relationship from a logical point rather than an emotional one (when you're emotional it's not about what they want but what you want). To avoid being a doormat just actually stand up for what you want. When she asks 'where do you want to go' and you say 'oh wherever' thats fine if you actually don't care, but if you're thinking 'anything but thai' and she responds 'okay I know a good thai place' then just tell her you don't much care for thai food. Even little things can show women that you have a backbone and aren't afraid to stand up to defend yourself. Personally I think that all comes back to women taking men as a role of protector, milquetoast men make ****ty bodyguards.
bananaboat11 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Be content with who I am... where I am in life... and where I intend to go. The first moment you question yourself... you create a chasm in your heart and immediately seek answers from the outside world. This is where neediness, and support from external crutches come from... confidence is not cockiness. cockiness can be mistaken for confidence. And realize that kindness is not a weakness... and those who perceive it so... should be nothing to you.
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