Is his request normal?

[make me believe]

I find that most guys at least trim themselves nowadays too. Pubes & other body hair (chest). I've been with a few who shave it off completely, but most just kept it short, neat, & tidy. OP, I would request that your bf does that if he doesn't already.

[JustJoe]

I could care less. Either bare or bushy is Sokay with me. But I do echo TBF'S sentiments.

[theumlaut]

But I do have to inject something. Why the need for hair removal around the genitals? Only prepubescent girls are naturally denuded. A pretty sick thought if you think about it.

 

As noted by others, there's a generational thing going on with this. I'm mid-40s, and the natural look is what looks best to me. Similar to what one woman wrote about her husband, mid-late 1970s Playmates are the gold standard in female beauty for me (friend and I found a stash of Playboys when we were 13 and were in heaven), and they didn't shave. I haven't dated younger than my age and haven't been with anyone who went mostly or all the way shaved. Natural is "natural" and attractive to me visually. I used to think bald looked juvenile, creepy--still do a little bit. Part of sexual maturing for females from girl to woman is the growth of pubic hair. I know 20 years ago or so other guys felt the same, recalling some discussions--shaving not very common back then. But I'm getting a bit more used to seeing shaved, though. Practically speaking, some trimming can be a good thing.

 

I've also experienced the same thing with GFs wanting me to keep my face shaved. I've had a couple of GFs who liked the 2 day-stubble look, but not the feel. I make it a point to shave very closely, then, because it comes in heavy for me.

 

But it is a normal request insofar as common and doesn't demand much of you. It might mean you get more oral sex out of it, so that's not bad, is it?

Edited April 28, 2010 by theumlaut

[Green]

I think it's normal to ask for a bit of landscaping. I personally shave and I've never had any complaints, that's for sure. The guys I've been with since shaving all say that's what they prefer (an age span of 23 to 37, so quite a wide age range there!)

 

When I first started dating my BF he was TOTALLY natural. I asked him to trim it up after the first time we had sex. I thought it was odd that he's never had a woman ask him to do that before and he had never considered trimming. Hair is my mouth is gross. My theory is if you want a blow job every day, shave that sh*t!!

 

I prefer non shaved... a big muff is best

[Knittress]

It's definitely not abnormal to prefer a certain style of grooming, even though I find it totally weird that people are focusing on the look of their partners gentalia THAT much. Maybe it's because I'm a chick, I dunno...

[Jersey Shortie]

It's normal. But OP, if you don't want to do, don't do it. He will survive. If you do want to do it, nothing wrong with that either.

[Ruby Slippers]

It's a normal request, but whether or not to do it is entirely your decision.