Took Me 2 months to realize ITS OVER ,How do i go about getting over this.

[TooMuchPride]

ive made many posts in "second chances" cause all along thats what i wanted but ive finally reach the stage where i must accept that its over , we broke up almost 2 months ago and ive tried many things to fix it a couple days ago he finally said that he still loves me and has been thinking about getting back together , the thing is he met someone new and that same day i realized he was jus playing with me so went back no contact its only been a day but i kno he will not contact me and i wont contact him , it was long distance and ill be home pretty soon , and only then will he realize what he lost but that will be too late , i just need help on gettin over this , especially losing as much feelins possible before i get home and have to see him everywhere, he just isnt worth it.its was only 7 months but i felt deeply about him , and unrequited love always hurts.

[TLH]

Hey TMP-

 

I'm so sorry for your pain. I know too well how much it hurts to lose your lover and best friend. And that is why NC is so hard. You go from talking/relying on/ seeing/ and knowing that this person will be there for you, to absolutely nothing. But that is the essential part to healing. You are now in a position where you have tried everything to show this person that you want to make it work and you are willing to make the necessary changes. But that is all you can do. If that person doesn't take it, then you need to accept that it is over and move on. There is absolutely nothing else you can do. So why keep torturing yourself by sending messages, calling, looking at pictures, etc? It's just not worth the pain and the suffering. You need to break ALL contact. If the other person changes their mind, they will find a way to contact you. Otherwise, you need to just accept that it is over and try to learn how to live and be happy without this person in your life. And the fastest and most effective way to do this is with NC.

 

It will be hard and painful but it is the only way. Focus on yourself. Spoil yourself. Fall in love with yourself. Work on the things that you can control. You can't control what the other person thinks/does/wants to do. You can only control your feelings, your actions, your experiences, and your life. So why not put all your thoughts and effort into that? Be proud of yourself for trying to fix things. But accept that this is the end of this relationship. And believe that there is someone perfect out there for you. Because it is the truth. And the faster you heal, the faster you will find true joy and happiness within yourself and within another.

 

You are not alone. We are all in this together.