monkeymaid Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 whats up everyone?? no writing just cliffs 1. i miss my ex 2. i miss my ex 3. i miss my ex 4. its been almost 2 months and i miss her more than yesterday or two weeks ago. ... 5. im really sad because i miss my ex
TLH Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I feel you my friend. Just hang in there. Breathe. And keep breathing. And whatever you do, remain NC. This despair may pass in an hour, a day, or a week. But it will pass.
Author monkeymaid Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 im breathing. deep! the last 2 days have been hell! i hink the depression stage is hitting me hard this time. i think its setting in that she gone. and not coming back. i want her to come back i really just miss her
DontWorryBHappy Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Hey MM, are you the one who broke it off??? I thought I remembered reading that somewhere on here..... In any case, I'm with you. Although the last time I heard from mine was 5 days ago... Anyway, I was THIIISSSS close to unblocking my ex on fb yesterday. Thank god fb makes it so that if you unblock someone, you have to wait 48 hours to reblock them. I was thinking I was be cool like a ninja, unblock him for about 5 minutes just to get my fix, then reblock him straight away. But since I'd have to WAIT to reblock him I of course didnt unblock at all (didnt want him to see my weakness). Bleh. But yeah... I miss him quite a bit. It's a sense of missing him more than I miss the relationship, if that makes sense.
Author monkeymaid Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 yup i did break it off. ...its a story and honestly not my fault. i had my problems but she responded in the worst way, so i kind of had to go or be used for the rest of my life. ...things are back in perspective this afternoon btw. thanks guys for the words earlier!!!
USMCHokie Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Almost nine months for me...yea, I still miss her too, but at least it doesn't hurt as much...
SadKitty78 Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 i'm 5 days post breakup and i'm scared it'll be 2-9 months on and i'll still be hurting and missing him!!!! that thought is just as frightening as knowing he's not coming back! ugh!!!
ingridh Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 9 weeks now. Yes I miss him. But I also hate him. Sad.
Melrapuo Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 All you can do is take things in strides. Getting past an ugly break up isn't easy, but it also isn't a race (as much as we wish it was). It's going to take time to get over things. No one can tell you how long, but accepting things is a start. I'm in a new relationship since my last break up, and things are going great, but I'd be dumb to say that the pain from a few years ago still isn't there. You may miss your ex for a while. You might not. It's not so much how you feel, but understanding that its ok to have these feelings and know what to do with them. Deep breaths, hobbies, exercising, getting out, etc. - do anything to try and not focus on it. You always have people here to help ya out, and everything really does get better.
KewlBum Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 I miss my ex too. About 1 and a half months since the breakup. I wish so badly I could just forget about her...
SadKitty78 Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 Damn! This song expresses exactly how I feel about my ex right now, and expresses the general sentiment of this post: Keep Forgetting To Forget About You....
skydiveaddict Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 I miss my ex too, and it wont go away. I hate it
SadKitty78 Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 I WANT TO CALL HIM!!! But communicating with him always makes it WORSE! I'm not even sure we are right for each other, but NOT being with him is killing me! It's like there's no winning situation here!!
Author monkeymaid Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 i am shocked that all of you are right here with me! i hope you all work this **** out! cuz i wish this on no one. ...its like that dull pain that ebs and flows like the tide. speaking of which, i was out surfing, having a ball!!!! and i caught the most beautiful wave. ...it was about head high and went for a good 45 seconds ...i saw it build and as it started peaking, it started whispering in my ear. ...i am yours. have your way with me and the earth will echo with your elation , i turned, and paddled. i paddled for all i was worth!! ..it was pure exhilaration the wave picked me up, i felt the spray behind me. everyone in the line felt that stoke. they put it in the world ...i got woots from the shore! the wave peaked, i dropped in. the board just floated to my feet, i grabbed the rail, made that long sweeping bottom turn, and lined up for the barrel. the wave cradled me, it held me just right. i looked around and was flying inside a cone of water. i looked forward, and saw the light at the end of the tunnel, but wait. ....what does my mind defer to?? i caught a glimpse of my ex. ...my mind said, "she would love this!" i lossed all of my stoke, all of my elation. ..my zen vanished in a split second, and my thoughts took over. ...i dug my rail, and bailed into the abyss. i got tossed and turned, i hit the ground and a rock dinged my board. even in the best of times she ****ing with me. ...ArrrrGrrrrHAGAAAAAAHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! go the **** away!!! get the **** out of my head and just let me be happy without you!!!!! you werent a good girlfriend. ..you didnt do anything for me, you sucked the life out of me, and swept my feet from under me. please get the hell out of my head and go screw up someone else!!!! GO AWAY!!!!!!!
skydiveaddict Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 go the **** away!!! get the **** out of my head and just let me be happy without you!!!!! you werent a good girlfriend. ..you didnt do anything for me, you sucked the life out of me, and swept my feet from under me. please get the hell out of my head and go screw up someone else!!!! GO AWAY!!!!!!! Very well said my friend. The same thing goes through my mind every day
SadKitty78 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Monkeymaid, Skydiveaddict: Sounds like you guys are at the "angry" stage or perhaps the stage where you at least look back at the relationship in a realistic manner. That's shows you guys are moving on! I'm at the stage where all I can remember are the good times even though the relationship was far from perfect or even functional. How long did it take to get to this stage?
Author monkeymaid Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 i keep remembering the happy stuff too. ...its just that i was having a really gret time, and at the worst possible moment, a thouhgt of her creeped, and it destroyed my great time. its more frustration than anger! and as far as how long it takes, thats up to you. im a little less than 2 months and the stages seem to be cycling ive gotten to the point where i am now forcing myself to do all of the things i used to LOVE!!! and am trying to fall in love with them again. ...rather than just doing anything to pass the time. surfing was one of those things. i almost fell for it again. ...i think a few more dates with the big blue and shell have my heart once more!
skydiveaddict Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Monkeymaid, Skydiveaddict: Sounds like you guys are at the "angry" stage or perhaps the stage where you at least look back at the relationship in a realistic manner. That's shows you guys are moving on! I'm at the stage where all I can remember are the good times even though the relationship was far from perfect or even functional. How long did it take to get to this stage? about four months
SadKitty78 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 surfing was one of those things. i almost fell for it again. ...i think a few more dates with the big blue and shell have my heart once more! Yes and I'm sure she'll treat your heart better than your ex did. I'm in the process of re-falling in love with my hobbies and passion again. Right now, I'm just useless and unproductive. Funny how a breakup can turn an ordinarily productive and fun loving person into someone who just sulks around the house. Pathetic really!
bananaboat11 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 It's been 6 months for me. I'm doing so much better without my ex. She was toxic. It gets better. Be strong. Bask in positive influences. Be a friend to your friends. Let them support you. Gym it up, son. Pick up a new hobby. Practice / engage in a current hobby more.
skydiveaddict Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Yes and I'm sure she'll treat your heart better than your ex did. I'm in the process of re-falling in love with my hobbies and passion again. Right now, I'm just useless and unproductive. Funny how a breakup can turn an ordinarily productive and fun loving person into someone who just sulks around the house. Pathetic really! I could suggest a good hobby for you.
SadKitty78 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I could suggest a good hobby for you. Hmmmm...let me guess, sky diving?! I'm afraid of heights though, but hey, you gotta conquer your fears! I need to get back into hiking now that the weather is starting to warm up!
KewlBum Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 This is getting to be too much. Today has been especially depressing for me...I don't know why. I've been thinking about her even more then usual today. I just feel like crying my eyes out 24/7. I want this to end. I can't take much more of this.
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