Author spookie Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 can we pleaswe avoid turning this thread into an as abortion wrong thread? rehashing that old argument was not my intent. re: birth control failure, i wanted to point out that 99% effective, which oral bc is at best, is actually not very good. 99% effective means that with perfect use, 1/100 women will still get pregnant every year. in other words, your odds of getting pregnant if using it perfectly for 10 years are 1-.99^10 = 9.56%. with perfect use. assuming the human-error adjusted effective rate of 86%, the probability of getting pregnant in 10 years is 1-.86^10=77.86%. that's pretty atrocious. i got pregnant on bc. human error had to do with it as i hadn't been taking my pills the same time each day, but i hadn't missed any either, so i thought i was safe.
Hot Carl Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 If I found out I got you pregnant, Spookie, I would pass around cigars to everyone I met.
Eeyore79 Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 He absolutely should have a say in the decision. Not to mention theoretically, if he was capable and willing to raise the child - it is my opinion she should be legally responsible to give him and the child this opportunity. You must be kidding... you're saying I should be forced to carry and give birth to a child I don't want, just because the father wants it? And that I should then be legally and financially responsible for this child that I didn't want in the first place?
NormanLUnderwood2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Hmm I want to have a baby..I really love to.. But time will come...I just wait on the right time... I really love my girlfriend I don't really want her to give some problems like that...
Mr White Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 If my gf accidentally gets pregnant, I'll give her a high five.
Cracker Jack Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 I'd probably cry. However, I'd take responsibility for my actions. I remember when I was hoping my best friend would've gotten pregnant, and ended up sad because she wasn't.
ADF Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 This is an important topic that doesn't get talked about nearly enough. As a man, my choice of whether or not to become a father begins and ends at the point of conception. Once conception occurs, the choices are no longer mine. That is the law, and that is the way it should be. To give me a say after the woman concieved would be to give me control of her body, and that isn't right. Knowing all of this, I have alwys been 100% careful when it came to contraception. In 40 years, I've had no close calls. If my SO concieved, I would support her in whatever she chose. Again, it would be her decsion, not mine.
Els Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 This is an important topic that doesn't get talked about nearly enough. As a man, my choice of whether or not to become a father begins and ends at the point of conception. Once conception occurs, the choices are no longer mine. That is the law, and that is the way it should be. To give me a say after the woman concieved would be to give me control of her body, and that isn't right. Knowing all of this, I have alwys been 100% careful when it came to contraception. In 40 years, I've had no close calls. If my SO concieved, I would support her in whatever she chose. Again, it would be her decsion, not mine. Two thumbs up for this post.
Engadget Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Men - what would be your reaction to having gotten someone pregnant accidentally? Is pregnancy a risk you seriously consider before getting sexually involved? If so, are you prepared to be a father? Or do you expect the woman to have an abortion? If that's your expectation, how clear are you about communicating it? Would you resent the woman for not having an abortion if you didn't want a child right now? Would you feel an obligation to provide for it? How would a pregnancy affect how you feel about the woman, and your relationship? Women, what are your expectations of your sexual partners in the case that you accidentally get pregnant? A recent pregnancy scare got me thinking about this, and I would love to hear any stories! Right now I'd be scared if I got a girl pregnant, and am actually worried about it at the moment. It's a risk I do consider, but I always use condoms. Prepared to be a father? No. I wouldn't resent her for not having an abortion, and yes I would be obligated to provide for my child. I was given up for adoption by my birth family, so I wouldn't do that to my kid.
SadandConfusedWA Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 If I were to get pregannat, I could never abort and would happily be a single mum. I would give the guy a choice to be involved in child's life and pay child support or the alternative to NOT pay if he wants nothing to do with the child. Generally I am pro-choice, but at same time could never abort my own child.
carhill Posted June 8, 2010 Posted June 8, 2010 Outlier response: Men - what would be your reaction to having gotten someone pregnant accidentally? Happiness for the potential of life. Is pregnancy a risk you seriously consider before getting sexually involved? I've only had sex with women I wanted to have children with. I don't f*ck for sport. Now, back to your regularly scheduled male broadcast
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