Thebob Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Every good girl has a boyfriend. Like I met this girl at the pool and me and her instantly hit it off. I built rapport with her completely, got her number, and the next day her and her friend wanted to go out to the bars with me/dance club. She was touching me and stuff at the bar/flirting and so was I. I danced with her and her friend and I could tell that she was digging me completely. But I knew that her boyfriend was in the back of her mind, and if her friends weren't their I could have easily gotten with her. It just sucks when you meet a girl like that, but you have morals and you won't go after her because she has a boyfriend. We instantly clicked when I first met her, cause we had so much in common that it was scary. Anyways, im kind of just venting. Thebob
Bangle Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 If that is your definition of a good woman then I have been going after the wrong women.
allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 dude thats f**** up can you say tramp if you want her tell her to leave him
Bartender Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Knowing that you could get with her even though she has a BF should say it all. If you wanted anything other than a One Night Stand she's obviously not the kind of girl you should be stressing about.
Author Thebob Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 Idk if that's really a tramp, she's been going out with him for 6 months and they seem happy. But every girl I tend to be interested in has a boyfriend. Like if a guy has morals, he knows that he shouldn't hit on her because how would you like it if a guy is maccin your girl when he's not around? Thebob
allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Idk if that's really a tramp, she's been going out with him for 6 months and they seem happy. But every girl I tend to be interested in has a boyfriend. Like if a guy has morals, he knows that he shouldn't hit on her because how would you like it if a guy is maccin your girl when he's not around? Thebob hitting on a girl is all fine. but when she knows that she is locked down and she still roams the block with out braking up with her man that makes her a tramp
butterflysil Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 i agree one hundred percent if a girl has a man be it a good relationship or bad one and is willing to stray, she is a tramp for lack of a better word. they will try to justify their actions in many ways but once you're taken that makes you off limits. if you let others access to you still than it means she wasn't ready to commit. don't take it like she can commit toyou because she will repeat this till she knows she is doing wrong.
Kaplan Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 How can you say you have morals if you were dirty dancing with this guy's girlfriend? But seriously, I can relate to the frustration. It doesn't make any sense to me; If I was a girl, I would wait until I met a guy like me.
Eeyore79 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I hate when I fall for a guy who has a gf! Especially when it's not obvious up-front, so I'm crushing on him hard for weeks before I find out he's taken. It was literally love at first sight with an old friend of mine; he was tall, smart, handsome, and a really nice guy, but he had a gf. I said nothing and waited for them to eventually break up... fast forward fourteen years and they're married with two kids, lol. More recently I totally fell for this guy who was wonderful, cute, talented, funny, but after a couple of months I found out he had a gf. I initially thought he was married, so when I asked about his wife Idk why he took such pains to point out she was only his gf. Anyway, they've been together years and have a mortgage, so I can't see them breaking up. Oh well, plenty more fish in the sea
Author Thebob Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 Yea it's a pain in the ass, She didn't really talk super positive about him since hes 1.5 years younger than her and can't even go to the bars with her. She said she didnt have a relationship for a few years and finally found this guy, but I'm not sure how serious she is. Like when I was at work she gave me a text to see what I was up to. Like I made fun of him and she went along with it for how much of a baby he is that he can't go out. So idk, she might be just using him till she finds something better. But idk, we clicked so well that it's scary and that has only happened one other time in my life. Thebob
sagetalk Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 If they are dating then she is serious. No matter how: dumb, young, unmotivated, short, fat, ugly, mean, lying, jerk, loser, female abusing, acholic, drug addict, tattoo covered, never takes a shower, guy he is, she is dating him. That means, if all else fails and she gets lonely, she is with this guy. Just because she is talking and flirting with you does not take the other guy out of the picture. My best advice is to realize this girl is bad news and move on. If she would do this to her boyfriend, she would do it to you.
sally4sara Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 This is making me think of my guy friend that thinks any girl willing to talk and hang out with him is flirting with him and interested. But something I've noticed in social settings is that guys who are off limits (by having a GF or because the girl is involved with someone else) are considered "safe" friends. Unless the OP has stated his interest clearly, she might just be enjoying the ego boost from what she thinks is a "safe" friend. I prefer being clear in my associations and making sure no one is confused, but I'm not everyone.
ADF Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Am I missing something? It doesn't sound like either one of you have many "morals." You hit on a woman knowing she had a BF. She responded inappropriately despite the fact she had a BF. Only the presence of the woman's friends prevented things from going further. At what point did either one of you behave morally?
sally4sara Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 As someone who has always done the "right thing" when it comes to girls with boyfriends, I can tell you it never pays off. You can say to stop chasing girls with boyfriends, but unfortunately every time I get along very well with a girl i find out a week or two later she already is taken, in America most women who are average looking and not obese have a boyfriend and if their personality is alright they have many guys fighting over them. I'm really tired of putting some retarded, rap music loving sports crazed 1 dimensional guy who I know would not show me the same kindness and respect, in front of my own interests. You could say the girl is to blame as well for choosing him, but women think that's the kind of guy they want until they meet someone who is different and they never knew they wanted. All is fair in love and war, and if one day she does it to me? That's only when someone better comes around, and all women will dump their boyfriends when something better comes around. Well, to a point I see what you are saying. But when is it ever good to set your standards based on the assumed actions of what others would do? There are people who would walk into an unlocked home and take items they find inside. It doesn't mean it is right for me to do the same. But dating is dating and it isn't married or even shacking up, so I can see why someone wouldn't be all that compelled to cross someone off the list just because that person had someone else they dated. Just don't be surprised if the person you broke off is someone who could be broke off of you too. And in realizing this - what are you hoping to gain from getting with them in the long run?
sally4sara Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I think almost all women would leave their boyfriends for the better option if it presents itself, so what's the point in even thinking about that? Every kind of person is capable of breaking it off for you for every kind of reason, just because she leaves her mediocre boyfriend for someone she can actually share with and whose companionship is more satisfying , doesn't mean anything at all. You are correct in that a relationship can be ended for lots of reasons. In my past, I ended relationships based on the merits (or lack there of) of the person I was currently dating. You are also correct in that I have not spent much time being single, though I've never jumped out of one relationship for the express reason to begin dating someone else. All I'm saying is there are women out there who handle things above board and I'm not sure dealing with people who don't is the smartest course of action as it can indicate they don't have much to their character you can rely on. When I meet someone, no matter how awesome they seem, I still don't know who they really are. It is not smart to drop one person you were not considering leaving in the first place for someone you know nothing for certain about. And the same can be said for whatever amazing connection you think you have with someone you don't know well. All you do know for certain is they may be easily influenced by suggestion. And that influence is not always backed by real merit. You sound as if you want to assume their BF it without merit in comparison to you so you can lend the person you have interest in more credibility than they've shown.
Author Thebob Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 I absolutely agree with that, and I think she might be thinking that I could be a better option since were so similar in every way shape and form, but we'll see. I am only thinking this cause if I was able to make fun of her boyfriend and she went along with it, then obviously she isn't willing to back her boyfriend up when someone makes fun of him. Thebob
Author Thebob Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 Don't make fun of her boyfriend too much, she'll eventually come to his aid. I just did the once because she said he was 19 and I was like, your joking right? so your two years old than him? and she was like no I am not! Then I was like your dating a toddler!! have fun with that. And all she could say was that, yea your right he is a little baby.. Then I was like so let me guess your in love with him completely and you'll marry him, she was like "no I will never say I love you first, and I am datin him because I haven't been in a relationship in 3 years so it's nice". Thebob
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