acexx Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I need some advice how and what should i do when i get to spend the weekend with my wife, we have been seperated for 3 weeks and she wants me to stay tomorrow night and sunday night. What are the best ways and things to do to show you've changed because i keep going back to square one because i don't think before i talk stupid mistakes. She is still deciding if she can open her heart up to our marriage again and see if things can work. So i am just asking for some advice if any on this situation because she has said that she wants to work things out but my anger and weird mood shifts cause her to question my motives which i went to counseling and been reading every damn book i can about these things.
mikeymad Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Wear a rubber band on your wrist. Anytime she talks, you have to snap it before you respond. That will give you a second to think. And before you respond, you have to ask yourself this question... Would I rather be happy, or be right? If it's the former, more often than not keep your mouth shut.
Author acexx Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 ya that sounds good i just want to show her that this whole seperation was for me to get the help i need to fix myself before i can fix my marriage so i just want to basically show her i can be a good man again without all these frustations i once had.
del88 Posted April 22, 2010 Posted April 22, 2010 I would try not to worry about it so much, just be yourself and try to have fun with her. Just be warm and open to enjoying each other. If you try too hard, she will notice that any it may make things awkward. It will likely take some time, so don't try to win her back with this visit.
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