allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 (edited) im a single male that has not met one good woman yet.so alone. im a nice guy with an average body and a great face.used to have a great body to till i moved north damn winter hibernation .ive been in 9 relationships 4 when i was a kid 5 when i was a adult .ive never broke up with any of them they broke up with me 3 went back to there exes. 4 only dated me to still my ****.2 toyed with my emotions like a cat with a ball of yarn till someone new came buy.im on the shy side so its really hard to talk to someone you dont know unless its online. so heres the question why does trying to find a deasent mate so hard to do im 27 most people my age are already maried or have kids. fyi the last one got 2 cars and half my **** cheated on me and kicked me out of my own house. Edited April 17, 2010 by allanworks
USMCHokie Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 At 27, you are hardly at your dating peak...just enjoy what life has to offer and don't get too hung up on dating...stop being a nice guy...and go to the gym...then you WILL find that women will be all over you...
Author allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 At 27, you are hardly at your dating peak...just enjoy what life has to offer and don't get too hung up on dating...stop being a nice guy...and go to the gym...then you WILL find that women will be all over you... i cant just stop bieng a nice guy its who i am .but i can be a dick some times but you really have to piss me off.
Sazerac Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Um...how did the last one get two cars and half your stuff? Were you married/common law? It really sounds as if your "people picker" is way off. You seem to keep ending up in nowhere relationships. What do all these women have in common? Are they needy when you first meet them? Are they users/takers? Do they put off an aura of "help me, save me?" Maybe this is what you are responding to. Find the common thread among all these relationships. Ask yourself why you are responding to this thread. Why is your "beacon" picking up this particular "advertisement" from them? Then work on changing/tuning your "beacon" to pick up signals from women who are healthier. You can't change these other women. You can only change yourself and who you respond to. Defining what you really want from a partner is a good first step. Putting boundaries on what you accept and won't accept from them is another one. And as USMChokie said, working on your own mental, emotional, and physical health is paramount to your success. You have to be in a good position before you can start attracting others like that into your life. Best of luck!
Romance Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 You just need to ignore the women in the past and be confident. dont search for a woman, they come when you're least looking for it.
Author allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 So you're a silent penis, those are the worst. what is that saposed to mean
USMCHokie Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 i cant just stop bieng a nice guy its who i am .but i can be a dick some times but you really have to piss me off. Not being a nice guy does not mean being a dick...well, sometimes it does if the situation calls for it...but it means to be a strong guy...a good guy...a guy who puts his values first...a guy who is comfortable with who he is and where he is in life...a guy who is always trying to learn and improve himself...a guy who respects himself and respects others...
CLC2008 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 what is that saposed to mean It means that you're generally not confrontational, passive, nice, etc., but when someone crosses you....look out. Yeah I know, I'm the same way . But, I'm learning and trying to change that about myself.
Author allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 Um...how did the last one get two cars and half your stuff? Were you married/common law? It really sounds as if your "people picker" is way off. You seem to keep ending up in nowhere relationships. What do all these women have in common? Are they needy when you first meet them? Are they users/takers? Do they put off an aura of "help me, save me?" Maybe this is what you are responding to. Find the common thread among all these relationships. Ask yourself why you are responding to this thread. Why is your "beacon" picking up this particular "advertisement" from them? Then work on changing/tuning your "beacon" to pick up signals from women who are healthier. You can't change these other women. You can only change yourself and who you respond to. Defining what you really want from a partner is a good first step. Putting boundaries on what you accept and won't accept from them is another one. And as USMChokie said, working on your own mental, emotional, and physical health is paramount to your success. You have to be in a good position before you can start attracting others like that into your life. Best of luck! what they have in comon is they where women i met.and they accepted a date.thats what they have in comon .im a shy person its hard for me to talk to a girl i get nervice and can barley talk. but they all sayed yes.im not a picky person as long as she is smaller than me,as smart or smarter,can handle a guy thats disabled im ADHD and have 2 sliped discs in my back and loves to talk. she ended up with my **** by hiding half my **** i sold my first car to her dad for $200 needed cash to get a place she ended up with it . told her i would be back to get the other car in a couple months.she said ok. she had it towed to her dads then her dad put a lean on it for storige fee **** got so confusing that i sayed f u and never went back. i have a 1500 truck im happy
Author allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 It means that you're generally not confrontational, passive, nice, etc., but when someone crosses you....look out. Yeah I know, I'm the same way . But, I'm learning and trying to change that about myself. yep thats me but it takes allot
espec10001 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Never ever ever ever EVER let a woman define who you are, or let how women view you define your self worth. That only comes from within you, as a man, that takes time to grow. Become great at something, anything, it is all within your power. This is what separates men from women, men have Will. Take time to get to know yourself better, you will find you are capable of amazing things.
CLC2008 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 yep thats me but it takes allot You'll get there. A broken heart does wonders to motivate you.
Author allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 Never ever ever ever EVER let a woman define who you are, or let how women view you define your self worth. That only comes from within you, as a man, that takes time to grow. Become great at something, anything, it is all within your power. This is what separates men from women, men have Will. Take time to get to know yourself better, you will find you are capable of amazing things. never been good at any thing but working on cars and cutting trees and cant do either for a living due to my back .i come up with ideas for inventions all the time but i never fallow threw with them as it takes allot of money to get started. as i said life sucks .nothing in life you want ever goes right.my brother was taken from me put threw abusive step dads, a stupid mother, bad relationships,and now on disability have to live off of $800 a month.
butterflysil Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 i dated a guy that sounds alot like you and the thing was i never noticed his flaws and was madly deeply in love with him. i genuinely feel that today my problem is i assume good things of men. i want them to be good than it's all fke. i do get the bad boy likes but for something genuine i need consistency. you seem like a catch so don't be so hard on yourself.
Author allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 i dated a guy that sounds alot like you and the thing was i never noticed his flaws and was madly deeply in love with him. i genuinely feel that today my problem is i assume good things of men. i want them to be good than it's all fke. i do get the bad boy likes but for something genuine i need consistency. you seem like a catch so don't be so hard on yourself. thank you i apreciate your complament. it makes me feal better to know there are good women out there. i just havent found mine yet.
butterflysil Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 hey i'm a good girl but men always try to do the sly thing with me. i feel insulted so i perfer being single than in a bad place. people think i must be doing something on the downlow because i like being single and don't take crap from men. i bet a girl is looking fo a good guy like you but we do have lots of bad men hiding under cover that is why you have been bad in relationships. at least as far as i go no i don't care if i meet a really nice guy because they change quickly. keep your head high because we do notice it's just that good girls are normally hiding too.
Author allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 yea i guess your right but its really hard to find that right person if both persons are hiding .and it sucks your forced to play the game of life while your still young otherwise later in you wont be able to do things youll want to do with the one you love.
espec10001 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 never been good at any thing but working on cars and cutting trees and cant do either for a living due to my back .i come up with ideas for inventions all the time but i never fallow threw with them as it takes allot of money to get started. as i said life sucks .nothing in life you want ever goes right.my brother was taken from me put threw abusive step dads, a stupid mother, bad relationships,and now on disability have to live off of $800 a month. One day at a time...one day at a time...
Author allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 One day at a time...one day at a time... yea i know but thats boring
USMCHokie Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 yea i know but thats boring It's all what you make of it...
Rittenhouse Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Never ever ever ever EVER let a woman define who you are, or let how women view you define your self worth. That only comes from within you, as a man, that takes time to grow. Become great at something, anything, it is all within your power. This is what separates men from women, men have Will. Take time to get to know yourself better, you will find you are capable of amazing things. "This is what separates men from women, men have Will." Ouch. Very un-PC, but I agree wholeheartedly. Some woman/women out there, please prove us both wrong.
endlessblueskies Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I know you probably feel like your "behind" on the dating scene or whatever, but your not. There is no set age at which you have to be married or start a family. It happens when it is right for you and usually it just happens when it happens or when you least expect it. My advice would be this...if you're dying to find a great woman and start a family. Focus on yourself. I don't mean you have to get ripped or buy a motorcycle (unless those are things your truly want). I mean look back with no holds barred at your past relationships, realize mistakes you made and take a good hard look at the pain of your past and then start letting go of it. Just live your life...find a new hobby, make a list of stuff you've wanted to do-and then do it. Don't put your life on hold till you find a significant other. These people, the ones who are truly worth our time and love usually have a way of popping in when were not actively looking for them. A wise person once told me if your not happy being single you sure as hell wont be happy in a relationship...and it's been true for me at least.
Author allanworks Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 I know you probably feel like your "behind" on the dating scene or whatever, but your not. There is no set age at which you have to be married or start a family. It happens when it is right for you and usually it just happens when it happens or when you least expect it. My advice would be this...if you're dying to find a great woman and start a family. Focus on yourself. I don't mean you have to get ripped or buy a motorcycle (unless those are things your truly want). I mean look back with no holds barred at your past relationships, realize mistakes you made and take a good hard look at the pain of your past and then start letting go of it. Just live your life...find a new hobby, make a list of stuff you've wanted to do-and then do it. Don't put your life on hold till you find a significant other. These people, the ones who are truly worth our time and love usually have a way of popping in when were not actively looking for them. A wise person once told me if your not happy being single you sure as hell wont be happy in a relationship...and it's been true for me at least. what you say makes allot of sence .yea i do want a motorcycle just havent made my mind up till know. no just joking .there death traps.but to main point im used to holding my woman and telling her that i love her. b****.only if youl knew. i get lonly with out a woman around .someone to talk to to hold to love to care about ive never went this long.f***it im a big boy:lmao:ive went this long also i had a revilation last night no more mister rug **** every body who thinks they can walk over me:mad:.
butterflysil Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 i don't the problem is you. i feel maybe the approach you do is what is wrong. if you show a girl that she is everything well she will push to see how much she can get outta you. don't make them your universe until you are actually married to them. i am realy interested in your story. main point being i think your are the complete version of me but in a man. for instance now a days i feel that the aggresively strong females are the main ones who get attention. when i try to be aggresive it alwyas backfires. than i feel bad for acting like someone i am not.
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