Gold Pile Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 This place has reinforced what I've always thought. Look at all the posts about friends wanting more than friendship. That means that we all have a friend or two that secretly want more from us. See all the nice girls who admit (here) that they've had 1 niters and so on. Read and learn.... we have many potential dates all around us...in the neighborhood, at the park, at work, everywhere. LS has given me the confidence to act even more boldly in affairs of the heart.
Hot Carl Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I've learned that the really great available women live far away from me.
USMCHokie Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 LS has given me the confidence to act even more boldly in affairs of the heart. Indeedy...LS has honed my bullsh*t radar into a finely tuned instrument...
Author Gold Pile Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 I've learned that the really great available women live far away from me. so true! Who would think that a couple of hotties would hail from Canada:eek:
jthorne Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 It hasn't changed my habits, but it has reinforced to me what a treasure my BF is, and I try to let him know that as often as possible. It's also taught me the utmost importance of open communication from the get-go.
marsle85 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I learned the bad rumor about guys doing anything for sex... is true.
Hot Carl Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I learned the bad rumor about guys doing anything for sex... is true. How did you learn this lesson? Just being on LS doesn't seem enough to give that impression.
marsle85 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 How did you learn this lesson? Just being on LS doesn't seem enough to give that impression. I was aware anything was possible, but the insight/experiences provided by other posters (especially the emphasis from men) brought it home. I'm much more wary when approached (and even pursued) by men now. I think I was much too trusting, and possibly naive.
Joe Normal Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 I learned to communicate more openly, listen more, and put up with less BS.
Disillusioned Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 I learned that I need to interview any woman I'd consider dating!
mixwell Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Indeedy...LS has honed my bullsh*t radar into a finely tuned instrument... I agree with USMC.. LS and other reading materials have taught me some but by reading other people's posts it gives me an 3rd person perspective on certain situations where as being involved emotionally can blind your better judgement.
Pedigree Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 I'll credit for me not prematurely investing emotions anymore.
zebracolors Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 It's helped me to hold a proverbial mirror to myself and recognize the signs of my ways in relation to interacting with the not just guys but everyone, and when it comes to dating of course. It's also helped me to understand the many ways that men can think, and how to recognize the visual cues and signals, and why they possibly do and say the things that they do. I think like Marsle, I hope that now I will be more wiser when it comes to dating. I'm 34, I should know all this by now..
threebyfate Posted April 23, 2010 Posted April 23, 2010 At one time, Loveshack added to my cynicism. But you know what? Most of the cynics are full of poop, primarily outliers in the dating and romance world hence "everybody cheats", "the world is a horrible place", "women are nasty", "men are nasty" and "people are horrible". The world isn't a horrible place and if your life is so horrible, do something about it, get out of your personal hell-hole rather than wallowing in it, dragging others down with you.
You Go Girl Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 (edited) LS has been wonderful. I really needed the insightful honest communication to sort out my life, and my head. This place helps us all grow up, and learn the incredible value of communication. I'm not dating--but the answer to the question is a definite YES. I'll be able to refine choices much more quickly. Edited April 26, 2010 by You Go Girl
CarrieT Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 I've become a lot more cynical. If this could be traced through reading LS posts or my last break-up, I'm not sure, but reading SO many infidelity posts have shown just how easy it is for people to justify cheating, "we have nothing in common," "we are best friends but there is no spark," etc...
Woggle Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 To be honest I feel that if I never discovered this board I probably would have gotten over my trust issues with the opposite sex much more sooner.
Art_Critic Posted April 26, 2010 Posted April 26, 2010 Not sure if LS changed my dating habits but getting married sure did Even if I don't ask many questions I have always gotten a lot of info off of LS.. Reading... Not really sure if LS helped my dating or not but at the very least it put terms to things that I had already done or known.
Pyro Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 I never would've considered a LDR if it wasn't for this place. Best decision ever.
Hot Carl Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 (edited) Not really sure if LS helped my dating or not but at the very least it put terms to things that I had already done or known. Like your take-a-dump-on-a-woman's-face fetish? There is no term for that, Art. Edited April 27, 2010 by Hot Carl
Art_Critic Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 (edited) Like your take-a-dump-on-a-woman's-face fetish? There is no term for that, Art. hahahahahaha.... Maybe that would be a Cool Carlita On a serious note though.. way back in 2004 when I first came to LS I hadn't ever considered an old girlfriend that I had broken up with an EX.. To me they were just old GF's. I always thought the EX term was for people that had been married. Like my EX Wife etc... LS showed me differently.. There are many others but that was one that came to mind.. Edited April 27, 2010 by Art_Critic
Hot Carl Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 hahahahahaha.... Maybe that would be a Cool Carlita ha ha. "Cool" doesn't seem appropriate. How about a "Work of Art"?
Hot Carl Posted April 27, 2010 Posted April 27, 2010 Ex-girlfriends are ex's unless you've been married.
Peaceful Guy Posted April 28, 2010 Posted April 28, 2010 At one time, Loveshack added to my cynicism. But you know what? Most of the cynics are full of poop, primarily outliers in the dating and romance world hence "everybody cheats", "the world is a horrible place", "women are nasty", "men are nasty" and "people are horrible". The world isn't a horrible place and if your life is so horrible, do something about it, get out of your personal hell-hole rather than wallowing in it, dragging others down with you. yah! even though there's lots of people that post with bravado about how much they love bonin, and how nobody really cares for anything but themselves.. there are some very very strong postive people here that resonate past the bull****.. its helped me talk about my past issues, remember lessons learned, and also people have just thrown out a few gems that ive taken to heart. its reinforced that the people that are negative, put everything into a box (objectify/use), and think they're just doing what they have to survive in a deadly game of cat and mouse.. will stay miserable.. while the people that know how to forgive, find some peace.. will dust themselves off and find new happiness!
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