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What does she want?

 

This woman last week wrote me a horrible email telling me that I was a piece of garbage, a pig, like all the other men, blah, blah. This was followed by her telling me about her and her husband having sex and not taking care of the job. Than another email asking me if her telling me about her sex life freaked me out with the words WHATEVER written in caps.

 

Over time her attention level to me has been ratcheting up. She has been almost stalking me (she is married and has kids). Calling me all the time, wanting to know when I am going to be, what I am doing, who I am with blah, blah. In the last month its gotten much worse. I know her marriage has issues.

 

Finally I had enough and backed off. I cut off all contact, its just too much for me.

 

Should I respond to this or no?

 

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Dear xxxxx,

I never thought I would actually have to write a "Dear xxxx" letter, but so be it.

 

I don't exactly know why you are mad at me, and am wondering why you don't want to work out at the gym anymore.

I respect you and am not going to bother you since you obviously don't want to talk to me, but it is hurtful to me that I have no clue as to what I actually did to upset you.

 

I think I know, but I'm not sure - that you may have misconstrued something discussed.

Anyway, I think you were uncomfortable with my intimate conversations about my sex life, and I am sorry I ever discussed it with you,

 

and I don't mean just the kidding around emails. We were talking, big deal! so what about it? I don't get it.

Of course me, being a woman, I probably took it to a more intimate level, but if you truly understood what type of person I am, I am open and will discuss just about anything with anybody, especially if I trust their intentions.

 

I am sorry you felt uncomfortable and threatened possibly?

Just know that I guess I wish we could discuss what you're mad at, because it is hard for me to feel ok now.

I of course will get on with it, but I did regard you as my friend and

am saddened that something I may have said or done caused this ridiculous tiff.

 

I am really curious though, as to why, when you do have a problem with someone you won't rectify it, let the person know what happened or let the person explain or know what's what.

 

I have seen in the past you misconstrue several things and now I am in that situation with you.

I absolutely will not call you of course, being respectful and honoring your wishes, but I do feel something of course - anybody would.

I feel hurt as any friend would.

 

wishing you the best,

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Dont respond to it. Cut all contact, keep it that way., If you talk to her, it might just antagonize her. If you cant take it anymore, you have to tell her straight up why you dont want to talk to her and tell her to stop contacting you altogether. You really should have done that already instead of just ignoring her.

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