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Sorry, but it doesn't really sound like she did much of anything wrong. If you value your relationship with her, I'd say leave this alone.

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Maybe what women are calling grinding on here is something different then what I call grinding. Grinding to me is when a chick rubs her ass all over your genital area while you caress her. That is definitely sexual and something that I wouldn't do to another mans girl and definitely wouldn't want my girl doing to another guy. Its dancing yes but....... if your in a relationship I think it is definitely inappropriate.

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Maybe it is not so much cheating, but it does give some insight into her character and what you will be dealing with if you decide to go farther into marriage and how she will deal with problems then. Maybe this behavior is tolerable because you are simply boyfriend/girlfriend, but I think someone like this is not suitable for marriage or to raise a family with.

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Grinding while dancing? I've seen and done it in the club, though I usually just dance alone or with fem friends. Similar to dirty dancing, but to hip hop style music. A bit more gratuitous, but not always. I've participated in this kind of dancing, but it was not so literally sexual as actual grinding of clothed sexual organs and areas. No groping, kissing or erections being felt. I'd have stopped if that happened. But hey! some people are better dancers than others.

 

It seems there is this gray area of the unknown coming into the argument. You don't know for sure what kind of dancing or to what level of sexuality this dancing involved. Is that really the point though?

What you do know is that if you stay in this relationship and there are issues the two of you are dealing with, she is going to act out with other people in a manner different from how she acts when things are going well. That can indicate that she is someone who will not make sure things have ended before acting like a free agent.

 

It isn't about the dancing. It is about the change of behavior from her normal behavior whenever things are not wonderful in the relationship. This can give any partner she has, the feeling that if they bring up things that bother them in the relationship, she is going to use it as an excuse to act out. DRAMA!

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I have similar situations happen to me (but not quite exactly the same) so I find these responses helpful too.

 

When things are good with me and my girl she's a total different person than when things are rocky. I've caught my GF in a pic grinding with a guy she had just met and it bothered me. I guess everyone is different but that type of s@#$ definitely grinds my gears. It clearly looked like grinding to me but she still denied it (while crying).

 

When things are rocky, she often goes out to the club without inviting me or even telling me she's going, I have to rely on facebook statuses to find out for myself. When things are good she's always inviting me to tag along. I agree that this is a crappy thing to have to deal with, and I find it hard to trust a girl who acts completely different when things are good versus when things are bad and also can't tell a guy on the dance floor that she has a boyfriend.

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Life is much easier when you just don't date club rats.

If I meet a woman & she tells me she likes to go to clubs I loose interest real fast.

Especially when their in their mid 30's.

 

Maybe i'm just getting old. LOL!

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