melodymatters Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 This was the first thread I looked for this morning ! CONGRATS ! It sounds wonderful ! It just goes to show you: you just never know who might be around the next corner ! Keep us updated Vertex !
marsle85 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Oh my gosh. That post made me beam for about 5 minutes. I'm so glad you had a great time. Aww yayyyy:love::love::love:
Star Gazer Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Yesssssssssssss!!! I just KNEW you had nothing to worry about! I bet you're going to be the next eH spokescouple on those commercials...
CLC2008 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I'm rocking a retro cabbage patch dance right now in your honor! Woot Woot. :bunny:
marsle85 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I bet you're going to be the next eH spokescouple on those commercials... Awwww... haha I hope so.
jennifer4 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I rarely post on here but did read your story yesterday.. I'm so happy for you. It really happens and now you see that. I have hope that one day it will happen for me too : ) Congrats!
Author VertexSquared Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 So I asked her out (to be my girlfriend) tonight -- she said yes.
Star Gazer Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 So I asked her out (to be my girlfriend) tonight -- she said yes. Holy cow, that's light-speed fast! Well, I'm happy for you!
Romance Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I want an "I LOVE THIS THREAD" button. I find the OP to be so charming and sweet! I'm so happy this is working out. you sound like a great guy who deserves this!
spookie Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 you're moving too fast, committing based on laundry lists of perceived characteristics, before you have any idea how you'll mesh once the high has worn off. or maybe i'm just a cynic? i hope for the best for you two, but am holding my breath to see how this pans out... i also hope she is asian
Author VertexSquared Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 Holy cow, that's light-speed fast! Well, I'm happy for you! We both basically talked it out and agreed that it was perhaps a very "fast" transition, but honestly, it felt very natural. Any slower felt like we were just stalling things for the sake of stalling. I think we just both know what we want out of a relationship and this particular instance hits all the sweet spots. We're also both well aware of the "honeymoon stage" and are trying to still be realistic about it all. Neither of us are perfect, but we agree that as long as the right commonalities are there at the core of things, differences can help make things better. It's all a bit fast, granted, but I'm honestly anxious to see where this goes. spookie: Yes, she is. And if it helps any, we're both pretty hardcore cynics, ourselves. This is totally uncharted territory for the both of us.
Star Gazer Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 We both basically talked it out and agreed that it was perhaps a very "fast" transition, but honestly, it felt very natural. Any slower felt like we were just stalling things for the sake of stalling. I think we just both know what we want out of a relationship and this particular instance hits all the sweet spots. We're also both well aware of the "honeymoon stage" and are trying to still be realistic about it all. Neither of us are perfect, but we agree that as long as the right commonalities are there at the core of things, differences can help make things better. It's all a bit fast, granted, but I'm honestly anxious to see where this goes. spookie: Yes, she is That's awesome, V. But why the anxiety? This should feel nothin' but warm and fuzzy!
Author VertexSquared Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 you're moving too fast, committing based on laundry lists of perceived characteristics, before you have any idea how you'll mesh once the high has worn off. or maybe i'm just a cynic? Again, we're both hardcore cynics. However, I cannot explain in mere words how strong the chemistry/compatibility was here. It's more than just "we have genre X and genre Y in common" -- I'm talking about an entire system of thought, here, and the way we both approach problems/various situations. So far we've been extremely open with each other.
Author VertexSquared Posted April 19, 2010 Author Posted April 19, 2010 That's awesome, V. But why the anxiety? This should feel nothin' but warm and fuzzy! Warm and fuzzy, yes, but anxious only to the extent that this whole thing is almost too good to be true. I've had a very difficult life growing up and am not used to things just "working" so smoothly like they are right now. I am interested to see how we handle a problem when one actually arises, since I think that's the true measurement of things, so to speak.
tigressA Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I want an "I LOVE THIS THREAD" button. I find the OP to be so charming and sweet! I'm so happy this is working out. you sound like a great guy who deserves this! Seconded!! Vertex I've been following your last few threads and I'm so freaking happy for you! YAAAAAAAAAAAY!! :bunny:
spookie Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 v... i'm not trying to belittle what you think you have. i think it is wonderful that this looks so promising, and is going so smoothly. i'm just saying, sometimes the dealbreakers sneak up on you. so try to keep her off that pedestal, and let her be who she is. don't expect her to be perfect.
marsle85 Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 So I asked her out (to be my girlfriend) tonight -- she said yes. Woah man. That is FAST. Woah. Woah. Woah. I'm glad for you, but for the benefit of you both- take it SUPER slow.
tigressA Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Every relationship is unique and goes at its own pace. Only Vertex and his new girl can truly understand what it is they've got going between them, but from what he's posted it sounds very special to me. If I were in his position I'd make sure I snapped it up too! Geez, whatever happened to just being happy for people who go for what they want and get it?
Crazy Magnet Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 I'm so happy for you!!!!!!!! *does the happy dance* I see everyone keeps saying "take it slow" but I say go with what feels natural. My boyfriend, that I also met on eHarmony, and I went about that fast. We "dated" a grand total of two weeks (and only because we were both out of town for the first week) before I told him I didn't want to date anybody else and he agreed. It was completely uncharted territory as he is the type to date a girl for several months before deciding to be exclusive and then takes several more months after that to fall in love. Not so with us! Our relationship is rock solid now and we couldn't be happier. I swear when people give eHarmony a chance it produces exactly the kind of person you're looking for. I'm convinced it did for me anyways. My boyfriend and I are the male/female versions of each other and I love every minute of it. The two of you need to do exactly what you want and what both feels right to the two of you! (Screw what the rest of us think!) Congrats on finding your gal!!!
boogieboy Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Geez, whatever happened to just being happy for people who go for what they want and get it? Hold that thought for the thread where she says "its not you, its me...". Careful V, take it easy...you dont have to stall, but you dont have to race either...
tigressA Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Hold that thought for the thread where she says "its not you, its me...". Careful V, take it easy...you dont have to stall, but you dont have to race either... This is exactly what I'm talking about. I've just about had it with the freakin' doom and gloom... Seriously Vertex, keep Crazy Magnet's post in your head and just do what feels right to you.
Crazy Magnet Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Hold that thought for the thread where she says "its not you, its me...". Careful V, take it easy...you dont have to stall, but you dont have to race either... This must be cynical posters come be a downer in the happy thread day. Everyone needs to follow their own rules in dating, even Vertex. If it's working for him, then it is. We should all be happy that he's found what and who he's looking for. He has to take a leap of faith and a chance on love to find it.
Crazy Magnet Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 This is exactly what I'm talking about. I've just about had it with the freakin' doom and gloom... Seriously Vertex, keep Crazy Magnet's post in your head and just do what feels right to you. Lol I know! Had I posted my own super fast I'm in love with this man thread I would have gotten the doom and gloom and I just didn't want it. Barf on doom and gloom. Hooray for bunnies and love and Vertex and his new girlfriend. People may freak that I brought up being bf/gf after two dates and wonder what I was thinking. I'll tell you I was thinking "I'd be a dumbass if I didn't snag this up. If I don't take him off the market somebody else will! Might as well be me!" I'm sure Vertex is thinking and feeling the same way. Good for him! Doesn't it make sense to find what you want and then go after it with all you've got? I realize that most of us here have been torched by a former lover, but living in fear of loving or falling in love is no way to live. When you have that crazy scary connection with someone why hold yourself back from what might be?
tigressA Posted April 19, 2010 Posted April 19, 2010 Lol I know! Had I posted my own super fast I'm in love with this man thread I would have gotten the doom and gloom and I just didn't want it. Barf on doom and gloom. Hooray for bunnies and love and Vertex and his new girlfriend. People may freak that I brought up being bf/gf after two dates and wonder what I was thinking. I'll tell you I was thinking "I'd be a dumbass if I didn't snag this up. If I don't take him off the market somebody else will! Might as well be me!" I'm sure Vertex is thinking and feeling the same way. Good for him! Doesn't it make sense to find what you want and then go after it with all you've got? I realize that most of us here have been torched by a former lover, but living in fear of loving or falling in love is no way to live. When you have that crazy scary connection with someone why hold yourself back from what might be? :lmao: I agree wholeheartedly with everything here. I've had a few situations not so long ago with really intense connections and though they didn't pan out the way I would've liked, I didn't hold back at all, and because of that I can look back fondly, have no regrets, and feel confident that I will find that crazy-scary connection again, and it will work out. Okay, threadjacking over...Vertex, congrats again, and all the best with you and your new gal.
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