Author eddie_d_2000 Posted April 20, 2010 Author Posted April 20, 2010 (edited) THEN you decide if you divorce, or ask her to start chatting girls with you as well. Are you saying that if she won't change I should just start doing what she is doing to me? That I should just start chatting with girls? Cause honestly, if she found out that I was chatting or being flirtatious with women, I don't think she would like it all, to be quite honest. I know way back when we were dating I was having a dirty conversation with a complete stranger on the internet and she was very upset over it. I have been kicking around the idea of somehow at the very least getting her to believe I was chatting it up with women. Every time I even start to think about it, I think about our marriage and our kids and I stop right there. And to be clear, I don't have any evidence of any chats/texts/emails with her and any guys. All I have is some sexy pictures of her on the computer and web browser history where she accessed them. Edited April 20, 2010 by eddie_d_2000
Church Bells Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Eddie, I'm sorry to say it, but you are the classic "hand wringer" ... you don't like your situation ... but you WON'T do anything to change it. You have become a DOORMAT for your WW to walk on. Women don't like, never mind LOVE, a man they don't respect, and your continued tolerance of her disrespectful ACTIONS towards you only embolden and enable her to continue this pattern. You are being served a big SHi!T SANDWICH by your WW ... and until you are willing to spit it out ... you might as well learn to acquire a taste for it. ... and if it weren't bad enough ... in your last two posts, you have now taken up DEFENDING her disrespectful behavior. I'm actually embarrassed for you.
Owl Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Are you saying that if she won't change I should just start doing what she is doing to me? That I should just start chatting with girls? Cause honestly, if she found out that I was chatting or being flirtatious with women, I don't think she would like it all, to be quite honest. I know way back when we were dating I was having a dirty conversation with a complete stranger on the internet and she was very upset over it. I have been kicking around the idea of somehow at the very least getting her to believe I was chatting it up with women. Every time I even start to think about it, I think about our marriage and our kids and I stop right there. Nope...what I'm saying is that if you can't get her to stop, but want to remain in a relationship with her, then you're agreeing to accept her behavior. If that's what you want, then embrace it rather than fight it. I can't see how she could possibly say one word to you if you WERE to do the exact same thing she's doing...that makes no sense to me. What makes it ok for her, but bad for you?!?! I'm calling BS on that one, and I don't mean betrayed spouse. And to be clear, I don't have any evidence of any chats/texts/emails with her and any guys. All I have is some sexy pictures of her on the computer and web browser history where she accessed them. What you have in addition to this is previous behavior...which everyone will agree is a pretty good indicator to present behaviors. So you know that she's sent pics to guys in the past...and you can clearly see now that she's taken new, fresh pics, and accesses them periodically. What the heck else COULD she be using these pics for? Can you think of one legitimate reason that you would accept without complaint that she COULD be doing this for??? (Don't tell me that they're for you...because you'd have them already, and there'd be no reason for her to access them periodically while she's compiling something for you...that's another "BS" answer.) If she's accessing them occasionally, she's sending them somehwere...you don't think she's looking at them for her own personal enjoyment do you??? Don't sit there in denial, my friend. Think. If this isn't enough "proof" for you...then you need to take some serious concrete steps to get more "proof". Keylogger is your best bet. Or requesting that your ISP send you a compiled history of your internet use for the last month perhaps...but I don't know for sure that they'd do that. Other than that...some serious review of her computer might help too. (look through the temporary files, pull up and look at the cookies that are still on her computer, etc...).
seibert253 Posted April 20, 2010 Posted April 20, 2010 Keylogger, Keylogger, Keylogger. Then there will be no doubt or speculation.
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