paleblue Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 My ex gf at work is upset because things apparently ended last weekend between her and the long distance bf of 4 months, or however long it was. I do not know who dumped who. My feelings are she got booted. All I know is she said she wants to crawl under a rock and disappear. She was “very emotional” it was very bad – down right “awful” whatever happened, and everything in life just sucks. I detect some drama in that. Regardless, I felt happy. Like how does it feel eh?????? I know that is bad, but I did not rub anything in her face. Not a thing. I just listened like a chump. I am still not convinced she is really that hurt. I think its more or less just a blow to her pride. I think in a week she will be back to her usual self. Heck yesterday the girl is already laughing it up and looks just fine around the office, that was only on day 5. I am also not convinced its completely over. Usually the first break up doesn’t last. We will see. Regardless … guess what?? Im not going to rush to her side to boost her ego, comfort her, or wait for an opportunity to hook up. Nope!!! Nothing in my life is going to stop, that includes meeting new girls : ) I know a lot of people here would love to hear that their ex’s new relationship is falling apart, I know I do, but don’t stop your life for one second! thinking you are going to rekindle. Don’t throw away all that hard work you accomplished, pulling yourself out of hurt. Don’t make it easy for them. and don’t rush to their side. Because chances are, as soon as they start feeling better, you will be tossed aside again. Keep your dignity. Keep your head up. And if they want to do something - I say make them work for it. Make them work their booties off for it. What is messed up is last week I was asking how things were going between them, and she said good! Then she started teasing me by shaking her booty in front of my face. I wound me up. Who’s laughing now……
monkeymaid Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 i have 2 thoughts. 1. she now hs to mourn both of you gone as she didnt mourn you before. 2. the next time she shakes her ass infront of you, smack it for all its worht! she begging for it. maybe she wont do it again, or shell take you into the copy room .what, it could be fun!
Author paleblue Posted April 16, 2010 Author Posted April 16, 2010 2. the next time she shakes her ass infront of you, smack it for all its worht! she begging for it. maybe she wont do it again, or shell take you into the copy room .what, it could be fun! excellent monkeymaid already told her.. you are in your grace period.. when you feel better its back to dirty talk. she shakes it again in front of me she gets a good hard whack in the booty with my hand. dont mess with me!!
CaliGuy Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 PB, I guess I am confused on why you are making her a priority in your life again. Didn't she walk away from you and now her new relationship has failed, so she'll be interested in you again until someone else comes along? This is not a fun roller coaster to be on and if I were you, I would not give her much of your time that was not necessary. There's someone better for you out there, why waste your time on someone who didn't value you to begin with?
Author paleblue Posted April 16, 2010 Author Posted April 16, 2010 Fair question CG. I do not want to sound like I am waiting around for her. I have no hope of me and her reconciling. I guess I am thinking if she wants to be friendly, I feel ok with that now. In fact I almost feel like I take her power away when I talk smack back to her. I feel like I take away more and more of her power by just moving on with my life doing my own thing whether or not she is making noise. After dating other women, my confidence is back to where it once was. I no longer feel stuck on her. In fact I know I can do better. Its just a matter of time. And whether or not she tries to use me as some kind of back up until someone else comes along is irrelevant to me. Nothing she does is changing my mission finding a new girl to have a meaningful relationship with. Since she told me this Monday, I already started talking to someone new and I believe we plan on meeting up. So my ex’s recent change in status has not changed my agenda what so ever. In fact what would be great is to ask my ex her advice if I have any issues with my new gf : ) Would I recommend everyone talking to their ex? Nope, not at all. Don’t do it if you still have deep feelings, or have hope reconciling. In my case I no longer have any hope. Also I would like to point out when we split, no one cheated, and neither one of us left each other to immediately date someone else. So there are some factors to take into account. If my ex told me today she met someone else, I would tell her good luck. Whatever she does will not make me feel bad picking up the phone and making plans to meet a new girlfriend. That is where I am at. It took me a long time to get to this point. She no longer has the power to walk into my life and take that away. I don’t care if she jumps my bones.
CaliGuy Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Good job, PB. What you should do is look to today and the next days/weeks. Not the past. What's done is done and cannot be changed. Moving forward is always our best option.
Author paleblue Posted April 18, 2010 Author Posted April 18, 2010 Good job, PB. What you should do is look to today and the next days/weeks. Not the past. What's done is done and cannot be changed. Moving forward is always our best option. Agree 100%. I am a firm believer that once its over, its over.
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