TooMuchPride Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 (edited) No matter how hard i try to stay away i always end up asking a question in this forum lol. After tying to follow a members advice to "lose control" i got results alot faster than expected, i stopped trying to have a "plan" for everything and over thinking everyhting and jus let it go. and by today my ex was telling me that he still loved me , and how he always thinks abut getting back together and everything ive been needing to hear ; i kno this is just the BEGGINING of getting him back , because he may love me but is developing feelings for what was supposed to be his rebound.and him jus saying it doesnt mean much. he says that he tried to be her boyfriend (which hurt) but her man concern is me (kind of a boost) he says he talks about me all the time to her even when he trys not too, that he accidently called her my name , and that she said all he needed to do was "subtract the love he has for me" Ill be home in a month and im so eager to just get him back,that i feel im on the road to messing up my chances already , ive gone right back into combative mode and am overthinking everything, i really do not want to become the "other girl", and i need to kno what road to take to prevent that , at this moment he says he has more feelings for me and yadda yadda. he came so close to asking me back out it was crazy but thats not good enough , i need to feel secure and get him to not think about her b4 she does, lol the girl and i are "friends" we dotn talk but we are kind to each other regardless, i may have made a mistake by talking to him all day today , maybe i should have held off a little , as soon as i cleared my mind he sent me into a frenzy. advice on how to act from this point do's and dont's when trying to get him "back" i sound like a loser i kno , alls fair in love and war update: he has been online all day and has been ignorign me since about 5 :S , uhh? Edited April 16, 2010 by TooMuchPride
Author TooMuchPride Posted April 16, 2010 Author Posted April 16, 2010 thanks guys :S , lol i got upset argued , and deleted him probably reassuring him y we eneded -.- yikes. fail.
monkeymaid Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 the same rules apply. stop controling ****... slow easy and ....oh forget it. ...you need to build your self confidence!!! read what you wrote in the last 2 posts!! you have to be able to keep yourself under control and thats it!! its really that simple. not easy, but simple! my guess is you need to assert control over this situation becasue you are lacking in the control over yoursefl. ...you somehow think that by getting this situation under control, and him under conrol, you have yoursefl under control and that makes it ok.....wrong!!! once you can control yourself and think quite a bit more highly of yourself, then you will see the fruits of your labor run rich! this really is about you right now! ...please please please put your emotional center back into you and not on him, or this relationship. ...or any relationship for that matter...
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