Dodgers27 Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 This was going to be the 2nd hardest week of the entire breakup, due to the fact our 1 year anniversary would have been monday and her birthday was yesterday. It hit me pretty hard those days, but after Monday, I've done pretty well. Well, actually after Tuesday night. I decided to send her a long text telling her exactly how I felt about what Monday meant to me and that I hoped it meant something to her as well. I never expected her to respond, and I told her in the text that I would stop bothering her after that text (also I wished her a happy birthday). She didn't response (home alone kid hands on the face shocked, right? lol). Ever since then, though, it feels like a weight has been lifted. There was a sense of finality to the situation after that. I want to live my life without thinking of her with any little thing I do. I think I can finally accomplish that. That's not to say I won't ever think about her again, or even miss her, but I realize there's no point to it, and the only thing I can do is move on and meet someone else. All it took was a month and 3 weeks for me to finally start moving on completely, lol. There is hope. You may not see that if you are going through a bad breakup and you are still in love with the person, but as time goes on, it gets easier to handle it. My advice would be to eliminate anything having to do with her on facebook, myspace, twitter, AIM, YIM, MSN Messenger, whatever. Everytime I would see her on those or a picture of her I would start feeling like ****, but without seeing her constantly on those it did help. Good luck to everyone that is going through a break up, because it's terrible. But it's not the end of the world, just start doing stuff you love!
justaguy123 Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 Thats great man that you are doing better, congratz.
keith_m Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 This sounds like good advice- read my post 'how long do I have to wait'... I'll think on what you have written. I guess I'm on the edge of pulling the facebook thing...
Agent Thomas Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 Not to be the bearer of bad news, but you fooling yourself isn't going to help you heal. You see, in the process of moving on from someone you love, there are more ups and downs than any roller coaster you can imagine. You are at the top of the roller coaster, but that just means you're about to drop soon. You aren't out of the woods, you've barely even walked into them yet. If you turn around, you'd still be able to see where you came from quite clearly and vividly. Expect pain. A LOT of pain. I'm telling this so you put your shield up and aren't blindsided.
Author Dodgers27 Posted April 17, 2010 Author Posted April 17, 2010 Thats great man that you are doing better, congratz. Thanks I hope you're doing good too.
MrsPeaSoup Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 Not to be the bearer of bad news, but you fooling yourself isn't going to help you heal. You see, in the process of moving on from someone you love, there are more ups and downs than any roller coaster you can imagine. You are at the top of the roller coaster, but that just means you're about to drop soon. You aren't out of the woods, you've barely even walked into them yet. If you turn around, you'd still be able to see where you came from quite clearly and vividly. Expect pain. A LOT of pain. I'm telling this so you put your shield up and aren't blindsided. You're quite right: ups and downs will still keep coming.. BUT Dodgers already had his first up, didn't he? That's so great man! I've had a bit of the same thing as you: the day of our anniversary I finally stopped myself from contacting him and I felt SO proud of myself and SO happy afterwards! It went a lot better since untill today; today I mis him again. But not so much as the last times.. You'll feel the same, too.. You'll miss her again, but probably not as much as before. Go live your life dogders; it awaits you!
EYECANDY000 Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 glad you holding in there dodgers. I am in the first stage of going NC with my ex.
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