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LS need some help. I talked to the MW I was involved with for 12 yrs off and on. We broke off pretty bad alot of things were said.MW has been married for 22 yrs now. She flips and saids that she wanted nothing to do with me after telling me I want you and love you very much. I actually told her H about us. But she still talks me. Shes said to me that I did what I did to her I have to live with it. I asked her why she got with me in the first place, she said that her H was never there. And so you used me, she said she didn't. Now months after her H found out about us from me she still feels that I'm the one that put her out there I hurt her.

 

Now I do still love her crazy I know. She said to me that we don't have to talk anymore. Why does she get to continue live happy and like nothing ever happen between us. I hate that she still can over on me. And there is no repayment for what she did to me. I hate that. I gotta be honest she really hurt me bad. But I still love her this really sucks.

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BB07 Established Member

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I'm sorry you are hurting but when someone tells you it's over, you need to accept that and move on. I know it's not fair, and you feel like you've been used, but the best thing you can do for yourself in move on and let go.

bananalaffytaffy Established Member

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I'm sorry. I don't mean to be hateful. I am sorry you are hurt. But what exactly is it she's supposed to pay for? You knew she was married. Should she pay for hurting your ego by not choosing you after you told her husband? How do you know she's not paying for what she's done? Everytime she looks into her betrayed husband's hurt eyes, maybe she pays.

 

The hard fact is you both chose to cheat. You took a chance and lost. Now you must pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.

ladydesigner Established Member

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Really you should just live your life to the fullest and be happy. Leave this MW behind you and concentrate on a bright new future. If and when she contacts you again, kindly let her know that you are moving on nicely with your life without her;)

jwi71 Established Member

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The best revenge is life well lived.

 

Aside from that I suppose you can be miserable, pine, be angry and deny YOURSELF a happy life. I guess that would show her huh?

 

Go NC...her day will come, you won't know of it - just know it will.

 

Now go live and be happy...or not...your life, you choose.

bentnotbroken Established Member

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I'm sorry. I don't mean to be hateful. I am sorry you are hurt. But what exactly is it she's supposed to pay for? You knew she was married. Should she pay for hurting your ego by not choosing you after you told her husband? How do you know she's not paying for what she's done? Everytime she looks into her betrayed husband's hurt eyes, maybe she pays.

 

The hard fact is you both chose to cheat. You took a chance and lost. Now you must pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on.

 

 

Bravo!! Bravo!!

White Flower Established Member

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LS need some help. I talked to the MW I was involved with for 12 yrs off and on. We broke off pretty bad alot of things were said.MW has been married for 22 yrs now. She flips and saids that she wanted nothing to do with me after telling me I want you and love you very much. I actually told her H about us. But she still talks me. Shes said to me that I did what I did to her I have to live with it. I asked her why she got with me in the first place, she said that her H was never there. And so you used me, she said she didn't. Now months after her H found out about us from me she still feels that I'm the one that put her out there I hurt her.

 

Now I do still love her crazy I know. She said to me that we don't have to talk anymore. Why does she get to continue live happy and like nothing ever happen between us. I hate that she still can over on me. And there is no repayment for what she did to me. I hate that. I gotta be honest she really hurt me bad. But I still love her this really sucks.

Don't talk like a victim. You gave her your love, she did not take it from you. You chose to be a part of an A, she did not force you into it. She IS paying because you tried to push her off the fence in hopes she would land on your side; but she landed on H's side instead and has to face him now.

 

I get it. I'm in the same boat as you. And when I feel like blaming MM for dragging me into a R that he knew he would never honor (and yes he is at fault here) it is and was still MY choice to partake in a chance in which I had no control over the outcome.

 

I'm sorry you're hurting. If the A lasted that long my guess is she'll be back once the dust settles. The best thing to do is tell her you're over it and don't let her drag you in again unless she comes back divorced.

Chrome Barracuda Established Member

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do you actually hear this crap!?

 

WTF?

 

Do you not take any responsibilities for your own actions?!

 

Are you not an adult? Does anyone here look at themselves for what they have done???

 

This man is no victim.

Tommy's Girl Member

Tommy's Girl

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do you actually hear this crap!?

 

WTF?

 

Do you not take any responsibilities for your own actions?!

 

Are you not an adult? Does anyone here look at themselves for what they have done???

 

This man is no victim.

 

 

:cool: Seriously. The victim is the H.

pureinheart Established Member

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The best revenge is life well lived.

 

Aside from that I suppose you can be miserable, pine, be angry and deny YOURSELF a happy life. I guess that would show her huh?

 

Go NC...her day will come, you won't know of it - just know it will.

 

Now go live and be happy...or not...your life, you choose.

 

This is excellent JW....

dannie19 Established Member

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I agree with the poster who says she'll be back once the dust settles. I am sure she will and from your tone I think you'll take her back which is just not going to do you any good. It feels now like getting your 'fix' of her will take away your pain, it will but only for a while, many affairs work like addictions and I think you should use this time now to get stronger and focus on something in else in life, because if not you are going to go round in circles. Twelve years is enough to draw a line, if she's not left her husband by now she's not going to. She hasn't won becasue she's in a marriage that doesn't meet all her needs, she only wins if you let her back in your life or crawl around on your knees wallowing. It's going to be a long journey but you've started on it so don't turn back, head up and move forward.

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I hear all of you guys. I understand what all of you are saying. And yes I was aware of her being married . It wasn't suppose to go as far as it did. Falling in love with her was not in the plan.But I did. For what ever reason I gave this MW my heart I know I shouldn't have. But she knew where I was going with my emotions she never said she wanted out. Then all of the pillow talk I fell for. That's why I'm mad more so with myself. I know I can't turn back, feelings are hard to let go.

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