Kris30 Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Is it "bad" to date too many people? I've been talking to a few guys and at least 2 are really interested in me. I'm not exclusive with anyone, but I'm wondering what do you do if/when you figure out which one you do want to be exclusive with? What do you tell the others?
phineas Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 You don't tell them anything. You just ignore them & pretend they don't exist. Then when the "hot" guy you went for uses you for sex then sends you on your way you give the guy you blew off a call. You know, the guy that seemed real nice but not quite as good looking. That guy. He'll probably ignore you because nobody likes to be treated that way. Then you'll either have to go for the third stringer or find yourself a new batch of guys & start over.
SilentVoice Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 You don't tell them anything. You just ignore them & pretend they don't exist. My word this seems horrible... I know it is something many people do ( I do it myself)... Some times I wish it was an easier way.
tigressA Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Don't say anything about seeing other guys unless any of them ask. If they do, just say "Yes" and keep everything else to yourself. That's all they need to know. When it comes to figuring out which one to be exclusive with, just handle it like you would if you were dating only one at a time. If you're not into someone, tell them. If you are into someone, tell them. It's that easy.
TouchedByViolet Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 You don't tell them anything. You just ignore them & pretend they don't exist. Then when the "hot" guy you went for uses you for sex then sends you on your way you give the guy you blew off a call. You know, the guy that seemed real nice but not quite as good looking. That guy. He'll probably ignore you because nobody likes to be treated that way. Then you'll either have to go for the third stringer or find yourself a new batch of guys & start over. Spot on. Wish the truth was better.
Bartender Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Is it "bad" to date too many people? I've been talking to a few guys and at least 2 are really interested in me. I'm not exclusive with anyone, but I'm wondering what do you do if/when you figure out which one you do want to be exclusive with? What do you tell the others? If you're able to date several people at the same time, don't kid yourself, you're not in to any of them. The whole "maybe they'll grow on me" theory is ridiculous. All of my serious relationships have begun with instant chemistry (both physical and psychological) From my past experiences when I truly am interested in somebody, there's not any room for anybody else to occupy my thoughts and energy.
SomewhatExperienced Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 My word this seems horrible... I know it is something many people do ( I do it myself)... Some times I wish it was an easier way. I hate when people do this. I don't do this, and you avoid doing it by being honest, telling the person you'd rather just be friends, and ultimately by growing a set.
EasyHeart Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 From my past experiences when I truly am interested in somebody, there's not any room for anybody else to occupy my thoughts and energy. This. So much.
D-Lish Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 There is nothing wrong with multi-dating! Go for it! When you meet someone you want to pursue something more meaningful with, then you can take it from there with that one person. At that juncture, I'd be honest with the others and tell them you have met someone you want to pursue something with. I go through stages where I multi-date- but I don't engage in intimacy behaviour with more than one person. If and when I decide I want to be intimate with one of those people, it's usually because I am sure I want to be with them and not anyone else anyway. At that point I'll tell the others I have met someone.
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