some_user_name Posted January 18, 2004 Posted January 18, 2004 Hello. I often have daydreams about terrible things (divorce of my parents, early unwanted pregnancy, broken heart never healing, and other scenarios). What I can't understand is that I am pleased when I imagine these things happen to me. I imagine the difficulties I'd have to overcome (and overcoming them), the shock in people's eyes when I tell them what happened to me, my determination to stay positive, and so on. I never daydream about a happy marriage and a bunch of happy kids and my parents babysitting them. That reminds me of cases when everything is great on the outside yet the person in the middle is lonely and unhappy. The horrible scenarios make me think of somebody who is happy and fullfilled despite the difficulties in their life - or perhaps _because_ of these difficulties. Please help me understand myself. My parents are still together, I have never been abused, I live in a middle class area, I attend college and hope to have an interesting career.
SoleMate Posted January 18, 2004 Posted January 18, 2004 I've sometimes had similar thoughts myself when I was in my teens and early twenties. You reactions sound similar to mine - it's really about you being strong, getting praised, being the center of attention, maybe enjoying some drama, or even mentally practicing for the trials of real life while you wait for your "real life" to start, isn't it? Your fantasies seem quite positive - you're determined to be happy and whole in spite of what life may throw your way. I wouldn't worry about such thoughts, or even try to analyze them too much, unless you find them truly bothersome. If you wish, you can mold your daydreams to another pattern over time.
some_user_name Posted January 18, 2004 Posted January 18, 2004 Thank you SoleMate. It's good to hear I'm not alone. it's really about you being strong, getting praised, being the center of attention, maybe enjoying some drama , or even mentally practicing for the trials of real life while you wait for your "real life" to start, isn't it? Yes, it is. Maybe also about adventure. This completely explains, so I no longer don't understand .
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