SummerLady Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Ok, I am feeling frustrated, down and just plain F tired. I am always the one that is positive and looks at the good things first. I am healthy, employed, attractive, in a solid loving relationship BUT I am burned out. I am stressed at work, I am tired of being responsible. Yes I said it, I am TIRED of responsibility and all that comes with it....The one everyone counts on. I need a vacation, I need to decompress and I need to F relax. I get a new boss, I move and I try to keep up with the day to day. Maybe I am having a pre-mid life crisis. I just need space, quiet and F me time....I am just done.. burned, fried..........Enough!!!!!! Close to losing it.....
quankanne Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 okay chica, here goes: Take a DEEEEEEEP breath ... and slowly let it go. Then do it again. And again. Until you can feel your body relax some. that done, can you come up with a few quick possibilities to help decompress at a more relaxed pace? A trip to an amusement park, a pottery class, a lost evening at the bookstore or even indulging in a pedicure (my idea of heaven, those last two) ... just something to get your brain and body out of work mode so that you can relax? Doesn't have to be anything expensive (modeling clay is always a fun one, as is a brand new box of crayons and an untouched coloring book or even a bottle of bubbles), just something that's a 180 from the stress you're experiencing. meanwhile, know that this, too, shall pass – the stress can't always be there, you know? It's got to abate eventually ... hugs, q
FarmGirl Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Quick go get a massage or a pedi. Do something for YOU & you alone. I never do stuff for me either. One of these days I'll crack LOL.
Married_and_Lonely Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Maybe you should examine all the activities that suck away your time and dump responsibility on you - are you taking too much on or is there some stuff you can delegate to others around you? Nowadays parents seem to have some activity for the kids every night of the week; that can be a hard schedule to keep up. Eliminate activities that aren't essential, as your mental health needs to be a high priority. That, and exercise is the best stress reducer I've ever found. I don't always practice what I preach, but I remember a good sweat on the treadmill or elliptical used to do miracles for my mood.
You Go Girl Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 "The one everyone counts on" There's your problem. For the boss, let him know with a gentle word or look when he's asking too much. Straight out tell him the quality of your work will decrease if the quantity is too much. As for everybody else? One relationship at a time, examine just why and how you feel that heavy loads end up on your shoulders. One thing you have to come out of denial is--those who 'everybody' counts on usually bring it on themself! They like taking the reins! they like being the one who people call with a problem to solve! As you examine each relationship, ask the others in the relationship to pick up some slack. You're not asking for a temporary change--you want something more permanent, to release some pressure forever.
elizabeth26 Posted April 18, 2010 Posted April 18, 2010 I never was one to excersize, but I think it has saved lives. Don't stop being positive it's not something you do for everyone else it's to keep you sane as well, the karma WILL come back to you. And you have every right to feel burnt out every now and again. Do something to make yourself feel better, have you had a girl's night in awhile?
Author SummerLady Posted April 22, 2010 Author Posted April 22, 2010 "The one everyone counts on" There's your problem. For the boss, let him know with a gentle word or look when he's asking too much. Straight out tell him the quality of your work will decrease if the quantity is too much. As for everybody else? One relationship at a time, examine just why and how you feel that heavy loads end up on your shoulders. One thing you have to come out of denial is--those who 'everybody' counts on usually bring it on themself! They like taking the reins! they like being the one who people call with a problem to solve! As you examine each relationship, ask the others in the relationship to pick up some slack. You're not asking for a temporary change--you want something more permanent, to release some pressure forever. My boss quit 1 month ago and he was the best Boss ever...He was so great to work for. He was motivational, easy to get along with and just plain nice. Yeah I lived the dream and now its over. New boss is ok...I think this is part of it..Me and my one co-worker are in a depression over it. I know I can't change it but its a huge change!!! I always liked my job but my boss made it way better in the way he managed and delegated now I am back to a ok job. I don't want to look for a new job too much stress...not ready
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