eilidh Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Hi! I'm new on here and looking for some advice about my R with my best friend (of 8 years) who is a MM. We had a PA for about 6 months then an EA for another 9 before sleeping together again for the last time last June. After that there was 9 months of NC coz I wanted to get over him (hasn't really worked). I miss his friendship but can't decide if I still want more. If he was single I would definately want to be with him but I guess if 9 months of NC didn't make him miss me enough to leave he never will. Though he said on the phone 2 weeks ago when we finally had a more honest discussion about this (during our A I tried not to pressurise him or reveal how much I really loved him to give him space to make his mind up) that if I had told him he would have left. Should I tell exactly how I feel about him and that I would love to be with him but only if he comes and asks me out after getting a divorce? Anyone done this and it worked out? Or should I stop wasting my time waiting for him and accept that even if he does love me its not enough as he could easily choose to be with me? In that case any advice for getting over him and moving on? Do you think we can be friends? Thanks!
crazy love Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 I think that you should tell him how you feel. What do you have to loose? You are in NC anyways...might as well show your cards at least he knows how you really feel. I would just be careful not to word it in a way where you are giving him an ultimatum that always leads to trouble. Just let him know how you feel about him and your limitations in the situation like as a matter of fact....not like you are holding your breath on his response. Know what I mean?
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