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Ok so for 2 months i've been on a rollercoaster ride with the most gorgeous girl i've ever known. She's smart,funny, in law school, and a model....sounds perfect right? The bad part....she's sneaky,lies often,has realllly shady friends, and does cocaine fairly often....I really am a good guy, but my friends and family worry bc I have alot of money at a young age bc I started a pretty big internet company and sold it, but to be honest I really wanted to change this girl, im just a good guy from a good family but the drugs and lying are weighing heavily on me, but as a guy its so so hard dating bc you never find what you're looking for and on the surface being nice and funny and 5'11, just gorgeous and in law school are all big pluses to me and I thought this was the one and the rest could be changed with enough care and love.....

 

I'm really scared of the dating world bc im not the guy who goes clubbing and knows a million girls, Im just a nice guy who likes to relax with his buddies.....am I a good looking guy? Can I meet other women like this or is she really only into me for my money.....honestly i want your opinion

 

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Pic is small.

 

edit: never mind. :p

 

How are you spending your money on her? I hope not a lot beside the 1-2 date a week.

 

I am a guy. I think you look like any normal guy. So what that means is YES you can get girls like that.

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I mean im just a nice guy, im not trying to buy her love or anything like that but we do lunch or dinner at a really nice restaurant a few times a week, I mean do I really have to take her to chili's just to do normal things? I bought her a pair of sunglasses while on a vacation for like $400 and the other day for no reason I just remembered she didn't have a nice clutch and I was at the mall, saw one and bought it, it was $1200....I know that sounds like a lot of money but it's all relevent and it wasn't a big deal to me to get it and thought it would just be nice of me ya know? that's it basically 2 gifts.....o and when she was sick i sent her a chocolate covered strawberries and 3 "it's a boy" balloons just bc Im a goofball and thought it would be funny.

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That right there should tell you that she isn't worth the trouble. You can't change anyone plain and simple and you shouldn't even be with someone you want to change--it's unfair to them.

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You cant date someone to try to change them to make them what you want. She's a drug addict because she wants to be. You cant change her. So forget her and go find a model who's got her head on straight. A drug addict is too easy, take on a real challenge and get a model who you dont have to change.

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That girl is smoking hot. And hey, you're a pretty good-looking guy, at least from what I can tell, I don't often check out other guys (often meaning close to never). Maybe this girl is worth $1600 a go to you, maybe more...but man, if you can pull a girl that pretty once, you can do it again, and again. That should be no matter.

 

It's the lying and the drugs that should have you worried, those may not effect how dazzling she looks under the moonlight but it sure does effect how pretty she is on the inside. Why not just talk to her? It might be better to get your feelings out so she knows where you're coming from. If these things have you worried, and you tell her and she doesn't want to change, or at least stop lying to you, then it's not really worth being with her. There's plenty of girls that are much hotter out there that don't lie, don't do drugs, and are not after your money.

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Ok so for 2 months i've been on a rollercoaster ride with the most gorgeous girl i've ever known. She's smart,funny, in law school, and a model....sounds perfect right? The bad part....she's sneaky,lies often,has realllly shady friends, and does cocaine fairly often....I really am a good guy, but my friends and family worry bc I have alot of money at a young age bc I started a pretty big internet company and sold it, but to be honest I really wanted to change this girl, im just a good guy from a good family but the drugs and lying are weighing heavily on me, but as a guy its so so hard dating bc you never find what you're looking for and on the surface being nice and funny and 5'11, just gorgeous and in law school are all big pluses to me and I thought this was the one and the rest could be changed with enough care and love.....

 

I'm really scared of the dating world bc im not the guy who goes clubbing and knows a million girls, Im just a nice guy who likes to relax with his buddies.....am I a good looking guy? Can I meet other women like this or is she really only into me for my money.....honestly i want your opinion

 

 

in my book, INSTANTLY dumped right there.

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lol... She would NOT be with you if you didnt have the money.

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I feel so sorry for you.

 

Have you heard of "The Nice Guy Syndrome"? If not, Google it.

 

I recommend you to read

Robert Glover "No More Mr Nice Guy"

and

Alan Roger Currie "Mode One: Let The Women Know what you're Really Thinking"

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She just wants to have a good time, do coke, get compliments on how good looking she is, spend lots of money and enjoy the finer things in life and lie to your face when need be.............in other words bro, RUN:D

100 guys can't satisfy these types of high maintnance women so just take it for what it's worth, enjoy your time with her and when it ends so be it.

 

DO NOT get attached because she sure as hell wont and will drop you like a dime when a better situation comes around.

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She is much better looking than you are. You are average like a 6, she is like a 9. And honestly, that's the reason you're with her. You're not focusing on her inner beauty, you want a hot blonde model by your side. You love taking her out and showing her off. You're shallow but that's not a crime, most men are. And no, you can't change anyone.

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She's beautiful and you both make a stunning couple. However looks don't seem to be the big issue here. Lying is not a great quality and neither is drug use. Have you tried being involved by getter her help for her addiction? Drug users tend to lie cheat and steal to get their fix. Next thing you know you'll be supporting her habit financially whether you're aware of it or not.

 

If you are worried that you'll never get anyone as great as her you're mistaken. There is a whole world out there full of great people. It may not be easy but do you really want to deal with the continual deception and cocaine use? If you really want to be with this girl then you have to help her refrain from the drug use to better herself.

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Ok so for 2 months i've been on a rollercoaster ride with the most gorgeous girl i've ever known. She's smart,funny, in law school, and a model....sounds perfect right? The bad part....she's sneaky,lies often,has realllly shady friends, and does cocaine fairly often....I really am a good guy, but my friends and family worry bc I have alot of money at a young age bc I started a pretty big internet company and sold it, but to be honest I really wanted to change this girl, im just a good guy from a good family but the drugs and lying are weighing heavily on me, but as a guy its so so hard dating bc you never find what you're looking for and on the surface being nice and funny and 5'11, just gorgeous and in law school are all big pluses to me and I thought this was the one and the rest could be changed with enough care and love.....

 

I'm really scared of the dating world bc im not the guy who goes clubbing and knows a million girls, Im just a nice guy who likes to relax with his buddies.....am I a good looking guy? Can I meet other women like this or is she really only into me for my money.....honestly i want your opinion

 

 

Ah, you're just all about the wrapping and are ignoring some serious character flaws because you think its okay and within your power to change this girl. Just who do you think you are?

I wouldn't date someone who does the things you say she does, but maybe she is exactly who and how she wants to be. That is her right after all.

If you're not happy with who she is and still want to be with her - it isn't about love, that much is for sure.

 

On the is she a gold digger tip - what do you care? You're not into her for who she is either.

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You are a good looking guy but the fact that you are okay being involved with anyone who is doing cocaine really makes me question YOUR common sense. As will anyone else. Do you really want to be associated with people who are shady, sneaky liars and into drugs? Are YOU like that?

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So the key to getting a $1200 purse is to do cocaine....

 

Start taking her normal places and see if she bails.

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Hmm, good suggestion. Buy a bag of blow. Pick her up and take her to some place like Good Burger or White Castle. If she balks, offer a line or two. After you eat, tell her you forgot your wallet. If she complains - offer some more blow.

 

Take her to the mall. If she starts giving you the please please eye over some item, tell her all you have is blow and ask if that will do.

 

Sex! Don't hold off getting your orgasm. Be Mr. Minute Man. If she asks for you to finish her off or complains - give her the blow.

 

I'll bet she'd take it. Wouldn't you like to know before you go full tilt just how important her standards for treatment are in the face of obtaining her favorite drug? I know I'd like to know just what they'd do to get their high and what I'd be likely dipping my sexual health into to be with them....

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I'm not shallow and manipulative I'm a realist....realistically she has issues but we all do, realistically she's smart and funny when she isn't on drugs and that's what's important bc that shows there's a good person in there...be real there are not women this gorgeous in law school everywhere she is not dime a dozen what I am saying is....is she worth the effort to change....she was honest abt being in rehab 3 years ago an honestly my opinion...she just got out of a 2 yr relationship 5 months ago and that guy wasn't fun and kinda bogged her down so she wants to hve fun for these next few months before her first year in law school....and since she just got out of a long relationship she has no friends other than these 3 or 4 druggies....I want her to change but I'm so lost on how to do it....or if it's even possible bc she really will shut it off and focus on law school I know it she graduated summa cum laude from Princeton

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I'm not shallow and manipulative I'm a realist....realistically she has issues but we all do, realistically she's smart and funny when she isn't on drugs and that's what's important bc that shows there's a good person in there...be real there are not women this gorgeous in law school everywhere she is not dime a dozen what I am saying is....is she worth the effort to change....she was honest abt being in rehab 3 years ago an honestly my opinion...she just got out of a 2 yr relationship 5 months ago and that guy wasn't fun and kinda bogged her down so she wants to hve fun for these next few months before her first year in law school....and since she just got out of a long relationship she has no friends other than these 3 or 4 druggies....I want her to change but I'm so lost on how to do it....or if it's even possible bc she really will shut it off and focus on law school I know it she graduated summa cum laude from Princeton

 

Sorry dude, if wishes were horses beggars would ride, she's no good.

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I'm not shallow and manipulative I'm a realist....realistically she has issues but we all do, realistically she's smart and funny when she isn't on drugs and that's what's important bc that shows there's a good person in there...be real there are not women this gorgeous in law school everywhere she is not dime a dozen what I am saying is....is she worth the effort to change....she was honest abt being in rehab 3 years ago an honestly my opinion...she just got out of a 2 yr relationship 5 months ago and that guy wasn't fun and kinda bogged her down so she wants to hve fun for these next few months before her first year in law school....and since she just got out of a long relationship she has no friends other than these 3 or 4 druggies....I want her to change but I'm so lost on how to do it....or if it's even possible bc she really will shut it off and focus on law school I know it she graduated summa cum laude from Princeton

 

The sex must be really good.

After 2 months of dropping coin on her you are sleeping with her right?

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