He tried to break NC

[Ella whispers]

I was involved w/ MM for a year. I decided that since he was spending so much time w/ another seeming OW that I would stop seeing him. He denied everything but I felt it. Anyway, I knew that I would see him in a meeting of sorts at work yesterday and after the meeting where I did not even glance his way he texted me, I did not respond.

Tonight he texted again and I did not respond.

It has been close to two weeks probably, I changed my schedule and have not seen him or tried to contact him. Removed from FB,messenger etc..

I will not change my phone number but I'm not sure what to say when he catches me alone and confronts me about ignoring him.

All I can think to say is "I hurt, you win, we're done."

Maybe ask if there is anything he feels that he has to say, tune him out, let him talk and then just not respond.

There is just nothing to say for me. It has all been said. Nothing will change my mind and I refuse to let him back into my life. I went throught the not eating,sleeping phase and have been feeling better overall lately and I don't want to ruin or lose that.

Any advice?

[crazycatlady]

Only advice is not to use that quote. Don't tell him he wins. If he tries to confront you tell him neither of you owe each other anything and that you have walked away. If he cared anything at all he would say bye, but it doesn't matter what he says because you are gone.

 

CCL

[jwi71]

You want to end it or are yo just playing like it?

 

Because if you REALLY want him to go away...

 

Tell him "If you ever talk to me again, I'm going to have a fascinating conversation with your wife, your boss and HR about how you keep sexually harassing me".

 

That should be enough.

 

If not...do it.

[Ella whispers]

Thank you both. I do want him to know that I am done.

I think that the tell your W threat would not be effective because he knows me well enough to know that it's not true.

Guess it wouldn't hurt to say it though.

Thanks again.