jose resh Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 I had to restart this thread because its been so long!!! for the whole story look at the other thread under my name. (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t212429/?highlight=jose+resh) This will probably make no sense unless you look at the other thread first. sorry for the long delay. I got back from traveling and have now settled down again. Anyway I thought that I should probably post a comment as to what the result of all of this became, as i kind of left it hanging. So... where to begin again. December was a very tough month for me, we both went back and visited our families (they live close to each other) but never spent time together. The entire time I was trying to figure out if I should propose or not...(I had the ring). In the end we never met in person so there was no chance to propose. Ill post some of her texts for your entertainment. "thanks for the talk. that was really hard and it is sad to be here wout you. i will miss u and want to be w u but prob better if we don't bc i cant promisw anything :/" "Ok. I know that I really miss u and it would be fun to hang out while we are both here. I also know that while my feelings may change I am not ready to begin things again right away in xxxxxx. I feel like I want u to go away for a bit so i have time on my own to think in xxxxxx. That being said maybe you do not want to see me here if im not ready to get back together right away again?" Those were the initial texts which I felt were positive and heading in the right direction. I responded in a like manner, thinking that we would meet and have coffee or something simple. Later.... I think I am not ready to talk and I am sorry. I miss you and it is really hard but I have this hesitency and do need some time to work on myself. Thanks and I am sorry for being so confusing-just really hard Im sorry- i don't have time for an email right now. I feel that we need time apart-its hard for me to keep saying this and I'm sorry After the last text I pretty much went completely NC...since then we have only exchanged 3 non relationship emails. (one of which still upsets me because to begin it she said I'm sorry i know you don't want contact from me...). As I hope you can see it was the other way around...or at least that's what she told me... Anyway back to the story. Well, that's pretty much it actually. I have been working very hard on myself for the past 3 months and am really trying to move on with my life. There are definitely days and times that I miss her and the relationship that we had but those are becoming less and less frequent and my feelings for her are less and less strong. Of course I still have them but I believe that it has really helped me to have no contact and to just focus on life without her. I have been going out a lot lately and meeting women. Recently I went on my first post relationship date. This was good although it reminded me a lot of what I had in my previous relationship and how long it will take to achieve that again. Sometimes I wonder if I should call her to see how she is doing...and to see if she is still interested. But happily I have refrained, remembering some of the advice on this site. So while obviously i'm not completely over the relationship I am pretty happy at how far I have come. Take it from me it really does get better with time. No Contact also really speeds things up. Hope that this gives some closure to people who were following my saga. As always thoughts, suggestions and advice are welcome!
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