whattothink Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Hello my friends that never fail me! I'm curious...if a man asks you out on Thursday for Saturday night, does it look like you don't have plans? I've always heard that Wednesday was the cut-off but I'm curious what you all think! Thanks!
alphamale Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 as long as you're free there is no pre-set time limit
SecretSquirrel Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 It would be unusual for me to not already have plans for Saturday at that point, so if I was available I would jump at the chance to fill up that time. I don't see anything wrong with it, if you are free. If you are not, don't cancel anything to accept. Just make sure that if you're not free Saturday, and you're interested, you offer another time/day.
deux ex machina Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 If you are free and enjoy his company, go for it. I'm pretty sure the train of thought behind a cut-off is that you don't want someone taking it for granted that you'll just drop everything, or not being considerate of you in setting something up. So while I can see the logic, it's more the spirit than the actual custom itself that's really important. As long as you feel respected it's fine.
alphamale Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 if the chemistry is mutual and strong then all "rules" fly out the window
marsle85 Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 One to their own... but in the beginning- yes, you're busy on Saturday.
USMCHokie Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 if the chemistry is mutual and strong then all "rules" fly out the window This. If both parties are truly interested in each other, there is absolutely no need to play any bullsh*t games.
USMCHokie Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 One to their own... but in the beginning- yes, you're busy on Saturday. How many weeks in a row would you play this game...?
Author whattothink Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 The reason I ask if that I read it in Patti Stanger's book. I don't want to start a debate on her but that's why I was curious. Thanks for the input!
marsle85 Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 How many weeks in a row would you play this game...? I say this not because I'm playing a week by week game, but because my weekends are reserved for my friends, unless I plan otherwise. And by Thursday, I know what i'm doing Saturday. It's not a "on date 3...do this:" sort of system. It's a comfort level. Just how guys wouldn't call an hour after meeting a woman, a woman shouldn't jump on a date either. Once a level of comfort is established, spending time together can occur more frequently.
D-Lish Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 48 hours notice for a date is perfectly acceptable, that's 2 days notice. I'd turn the tables and think of it this way- if a man asks you out with 2 days notice for a Saturday night- it means he's willing to give up a Saturday for you!
Author whattothink Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 I say this not because I'm playing a week by week game, but because my weekends are reserved for my friends, unless I plan otherwise. And by Thursday, I know what i'm doing Saturday. It's not a "on date 3...do this:" sort of system. It's a comfort level. Just how guys wouldn't call an hour after meeting a woman, a woman shouldn't jump on a date either. Once a level of comfort is established, spending time together can occur more frequently. Thanks girl, I feel the same.
USMCHokie Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 I say this not because I'm playing a week by week game, but because my weekends are reserved for my friends, unless I plan otherwise. And by Thursday, I know what i'm doing Saturday. Very much agreed. But in your original post that I quoted, you made it seem like you're automatically busy just because he asked on Thursday. But you're right, it's not a game if you make Saturday plans on Thursday. It'd be up to the guy to pull his head out of his ass and either ask earlier or pick a better time.
Lakeside_runner Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Well, it depends... was it before 11:23AM or after? In other words... who cares - are you interested? Would you like to go out with this guy? If yes - to hell with Wednesday/Thursday - BFD!!!
BobSacamento Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Very much agreed. But in your original post that I quoted, you made it seem like you're automatically busy just because he asked on Thursday. But you're right, it's not a game if you make Saturday plans on Thursday. It'd be up to the guy to pull his head out of his ass and either ask earlier or pick a better time. Saturdays are for partying and finding new people. That is why she said that. Nobody wants to go on a date on a Saturday, unless you actually have a SO. Then it's a treat.
USMCHokie Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Saturdays are for partying and finding new people. That is why she said that. Nobody wants to go on a date on a Saturday, unless you actually have a SO. Then it's a treat. Good point. I didn't consider the actual day in question.
sally4sara Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 48 hours notice for a date is perfectly acceptable, that's 2 days notice. I'd turn the tables and think of it this way- if a man asks you out with 2 days notice for a Saturday night- it means he's willing to give up a Saturday for you! Yeah, I'd have to agree. I hate to recognize that I play any sort of dating head game, but this rule never steered me wrong. The only down side is any incentive practicing this rule provides is something that can get faked. Admit it is to send a message of limited availability. Once you are available, their demeanor can still change.
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