marsle85 Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Keep it up. You sound like you're happy! Sorry I guided your post in the wrong direction. Goodluck!
Author Rorschach Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 Keep it up. You sound like you're happy! Sorry I guided your post in the wrong direction. Goodluck! You can't leave now you didn't even tell me how I'm supposed to hit on the wimmin folk! And yeah I'm very happy both with this new lifestyle change and loss of weight.
USMCHokie Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 So. Somebody tell me how the hell you hit on women without being one of the PUA douches. I'm not looking for one night stands I'm just looking for a girl to hang out with and get to know Social networking. Meet friends of friends of friends. When you go out with a few of your friends, make it a goal of yours to meet at least two or three of their other friends. Do this every time you go out. Eventually, your social network will grow, and you will be introduced to women in a much more comfortable atmosphere. Many of those women will be no more than just acquaintances or even friends, but you'll constantly be putting yourself in situations to meet new women and perhaps find one who is interested and available to date. There is no PUA douche tactics involved here. And you'll be more likely to develop stronger relationships/friendships than just one night stands.
Author Rorschach Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 Blarg, thats harder for me than picking up wimmin at bars. I'm of a personality type that only has 1 or 2 close friends (only 1 right now) and we basically never do anything together. I'm just not that social a creature. This summer I plan on making some extra money through the business and just being 'out' more, does that work at all?
USMCHokie Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Blarg, thats harder for me than picking up wimmin at bars. I'm of a personality type that only has 1 or 2 close friends (only 1 right now) and we basically never do anything together. I'm just not that social a creature. This summer I plan on making some extra money through the business and just being 'out' more, does that work at all? If you're "not that social a creature," then how the heck would being out and about do you any good? I've noticed a pattern in your posts...that you feel that once you're at your "fighting weight," the women will flock towards you just because you've got this preconceived notion that you possess the ideal romantic personality. Unfortunately, you're going to learn a tough lesson...but that's not enough...unless you're physically attractive enough to make up for it...but you've got more than just your weight to work on it you want to be successful with women... The best place to practice social skills and be comfortable being social is to make friends and engage in social situations with them, where there's no pressure of dating. What do you do if you're out at the bar if you're not that social? Just sit there by yourself? Awkwardly approach women...? Not sure how one would be more comfortable with strangers than with his friends...
marsle85 Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 If you're not into that kind of social interaction, maybe join events or groups that you are interested in. You said you like hiking - there are hiking groups. That way, you meet people while doing things you enjoy, in your element.
Author Rorschach Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 If you're not into that kind of social interaction, maybe join events or groups that you are interested in. You said you like hiking - there are hiking groups. That way, you meet people while doing things you enjoy, in your element. I like this idea, sounds like something I could do. Oh and USMC, I'm actually really good at talking to people in a friendly setting it's probably something I would consider a strong point in my personality, but I agree with you wholeheartedly, it's time I started going out more with friends. I only have one friend that I regularly call for fishing trips/hang out, but I have 30-50 people I knew in highschool on a facebook I never use. Maybe it's time I start getting to know some old friends better and move my circle out from there. But when I say 'be out more often' in the summer, I mean not at home at places I enjoy (not bars), so like the beach, or parks, museums, just wherever I like to go, in a position where I could run into women who are out enjoying the same things I am and just casually introduce myself. EDIT: scale moved another 2 pounds in the last 3 days
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