18inlove Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 So i am 18 he is 30 we been together 8 months and for the past 3 living with his parents, Well we are signing a lease tommorrow. We both are working he is finally weening off the methadone, I have settlement money in the bank just incase money. Would like to hear anyones moving in soon stories and or concerns
ReadyforLove Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Sounds like a bunch of red flags all over the place.... I once moved a bf in within a month of dating. It didn't last and he wouldn't leave! I tried everything short of legal action to get him out of my house. After giving him the silent treatment for two months (he couldn't stand being ignored) he finally packed his bags and bounced. It was the happiest day of my life! lol. Personally, I wouldn't live with a SO again unless we were engaged or married. But I wish you luck.
Author 18inlove Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 Please tell me that this is a parody thread. What are you implying?
Disillusioned Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 I'd love to have a gf and let her have one of my 2 empty bedrooms all for herself... but yes, only if she was seriously committed. But I wouldn't extend that gift to a one-night stand. No commitment, no goodies.
Author 18inlove Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 I'd love to have a gf and let her have one of my 2 empty bedrooms all for herself... but yes, only if she was seriously committed. But I wouldn't extend that gift to a one-night stand. No commitment, no goodies. Im not even sure you meant to post here it didnt make no sense to my thread!
craw Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 concern: far too young to be moving in with a bf. he doesn't even sound mentally stable! well as long as you keep your bank account separate, it could work out!
Jambalaya Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 So i am 18 he is 30 we been together 8 months and for the past 3 living with his parents, Well we are signing a lease tommorrow. We both are working he is finally weening off the methadone, I have settlement money in the bank just incase money. Would like to hear anyones moving in soon stories and or concerns No no no no. This isn't a moving in too soon story, this is a nightmare from hell. You're 18 and he's 30, living with his parents and weaning off methodone. That's why there was a 'parody' comment. It's utterly ridiculous. The next thing you're going to say is you're not in school and have been discussing having a bloody baby. Nuff said. Dump him, run for the hills, grow up a lot, get some self respect and learn to love yourself.
sally4sara Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Oh wow! I read some of your other threads; never picked up on the fact he is going through methadone treatment! You DID mention starting a family with this guy.... Why are you ready to resign yourself to cohabitation and making babies with a guy like this?!? You have your whole life ahead of you. You have a lot to learn before you can even say you know enough life lessons to be able to properly choose a partner let alone one to have kids with. Don't you want the best dad for your kids you can find? How is this guy your only chance for these things?
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 You've spent 8 months making a huge mistake. Get out while you can or you'll spend the rest of your life (or someone else's life if you have children with him) regretting it.
Author 18inlove Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 You've spent 8 months making a huge mistake. Get out while you can or you'll spend the rest of your life (or someone else's life if you have children with him) regretting it. doesnt love count anymore? and the fact he treats me well and just has some flaws and issues like everybody?
sally4sara Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 doesnt love count anymore? and the fact he treats me well and just has some flaws and issues like everybody? I wonder if you have enough life experience to properly assess just how large those flaws and issues are and what they indicate about his character. You've not even learned to stand on your own and now you're forgoing that important life lesson to get tangled up with a drug user who walks from a LT relationship for someone he doesn't even know. It would be a different story if you'd gotten your education, had reason to believe you would be just fine on your own if things got bad and he wasn't still weaning off of drugs while coasting in his own parent's home.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 doesnt love count anymore? and the fact he treats me well and just has some flaws and issues like everybody? Sometimes love isn't enough, and often love blinds you to the flaws and issues that will tear you down later. If I've learned anything in life it is that.
Bartender Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 No no no no. This isn't a moving in too soon story, this is a nightmare from hell. You're 18 and he's 30, living with his parents and weaning off methodone. That's why there was a 'parody' comment. It's utterly ridiculous. The next thing you're going to say is you're not in school and have been discussing having a bloody baby. Nuff said. Dump him, run for the hills, grow up a lot, get some self respect and learn to love yourself. Hillarious, but sooo true:laugh:
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