Scared of moving on after 9 months of NC, anyone ever have this feeling?

[prayingshecomesback]

It's been about 9 months since my girlfriend of 3 years (I am 30 she was 29) left me for another guy that was not compatitble in my opinion. We had a very good relationship. Hardly ever fought, got along great, best friends, loved her family, loved her. She then left me for the other man and thought the grass is greener. Totally devestated me. I even proposed to her and she said no. I went complete NC and have never looked back. Been a roller coaster of a ride emotionally to say the least, but after 9 months of NC I feel like I am finally at that place where I can move on, but I still think of her everyday.

 

I have been on rebounds with girls and every one turned out to be just a quick fling. I felt as if I just wasnt ready for a relationship.

 

But now, I met this girl, we have so much in common and the chemistry is great. She likes me alot and I think we are going to end up in a relationship soon. However... I am still scared. Like I need somebody to push me out of the abyss and just go for it. I feel as if I cant love her like I loved my ex. Has anybody had that feeling when they meet somebody new?

[learned2 love 2late]

well fella, my girlfriend of 3 and abit years left me for another guy, i was heartbroken just like you.... that was 4months ago and yes all the girls i been with have just been sex and company not love....

 

But u kno how to love a woman properly NOW and id say see how it goes with this one, even though its harsh if u feel she aint the one you have the power to find someone else if needs be.....

 

Life is short opportunities might not come by so often......MAKE THE MOST OF IT U NEVER KNO SHE COULD BE THE ONE TRUE LOVE and u MAY even spend the rest of your life with this one

 

Dnt be scared make the most of IT see where it takes you!

[prayingshecomesback]

Exactly man. Just quick flings for sex. I knew they wouldnt go anywhere further. Now I have this chance I think to get into a new relationship and scared like hell of getting my heart handed to me in pieces again. And I am also afraid of letting go of my ex. Change is never easy. You fight to hold on. You fight to let go.

 

Love is unpredictable, you have to go with your heart and hope for the best.