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This girl and me have been on the fast track. Basically, she is the daughter of someone I grew up with (yet I never met this girl til a few months ago).

 

Anyway, the relationship at first was built on physical attraction. We saw eachother at a shop and I thought she was gorgeous. She never said anything there (neither did I) but the next time I saw her mom, her mom was talking about how much her daughter was attracted to me and it drove her daughter crazy that day that we didn't talk to eachother.

 

So I gave her mother my number to give her daughter. From that point on, everything pretty much came fast. We grew extremely close, both physically and emotionally, and she told me about how bad she's been hurt by people before. (Not your typical types of hurt -- this girl has been victimized by some sick people, to say the least. Demented things).

 

Well, we grew really attached to eachother as I truly had genuine feelings for her and she sensed it, and saw I wasn't going to use her. She reciprocated that attachment. I asked her officially to be my girlfriend after a few weeks, although she wanted me to earlier.

 

 

 

 

She was the first to say she loved me, but I returned it a week or so later after I was confident I did indeed love her.

 

Long story short(er), we basically are extremely close to eachother now it seems. She says some of the most romantic/deep things anyone has said to me before (such as I have her heart and soul), which strikes me as a good thing because I have always been the romantic type. And I feel the same way about her.

 

 

 

 

She always is affectionate and says things like that, and I do too. I have never really cared about a girlfriend in this particular way before, and I've told her that.

 

Sometimes I feel like I am addicted to her though and that I need her. I don't know what is a healthy amount of romance and stuff. I just want this to be a long term and healthy relationship, and not burn out fast.

 

 

Does anyone know what I should do, if anything, to ensure I never smother her?

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This was a very cute post. It is great to see someone happy and in love :)

 

I think you should just trust your instinct. It sounds like you are both really into each other and the feelings are being reciprocated. You say that you feel like you are addicted to her, are you still keeping a life somewhat separate from her? Do you still hang out with friends or is it all about her all the time?

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How I envy your position. But yeah just make sure that you have a healthy life and that she's just a part of it, if you have to force yourself to take some personal time away and that will prevent any smothering, absence makes the heart grow fonder (if the absence is like, a couple days, not months XD)

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This was a very cute post. It is great to see someone happy and in love :)

 

I think you should just trust your instinct. It sounds like you are both really into each other and the feelings are being reciprocated. You say that you feel like you are addicted to her, are you still keeping a life somewhat separate from her? Do you still hang out with friends or is it all about her all the time?

 

 

Thank you, I'm glad to hear you think so. I just want to make this girl happy. I personally think I've always be somewhat selfish and narcissistic to some degree, but I put this girl before me completely. I'd take a bullet for her, and I just want to make sure I don't do anything to hurt her or screw her over or smother her too.

 

I try to keep a life separate from her and start a government job on the 27th, so maybe that counts as a separate life to some degree. Frankly, though, I want her to be my life as much as she wants me to be hers. I have never quite loved someone in such a powerful way, and in that regard it scares me a bit. Only because I want to improve this girls life and just be a stable boyfriend (and maybe one day, husband (even though we both are currently quite young)).

 

I don't want to smother her or place too much expectation on her, but it's hard not to because at the same time, I love how dependent on me she is. Because despite my mental efforts, I too am just as addicted to her.

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How I envy your position. But yeah just make sure that you have a healthy life and that she's just a part of it, if you have to force yourself to take some personal time away and that will prevent any smothering, absence makes the heart grow fonder (if the absence is like, a couple days, not months XD)

 

 

Thank you my friend. Don't worry, I know how it feels to just want love and to be loved. After I lost my ex girlfriend a long time ago, it basically left me in a cold depression and I didn't care about anything or anyone except myself. But opportunities always come along in life when we aren't expecting them.

 

Although I certainly don't mind pushing the opportunities along. I made an account on plenty of fish one day, and would chat with girls on that to stop from feeling lonely. That place was awesome, except for all the crazies. (But then again, I probably am crazy too).

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but I put this girl before me completely.

 

 

Don't forget about yourself in the process of dating this girl. Your own mental, physical, and emotional well-being is just as important as hers. It doesn't sound like you have much going on outside of your relationship. It is important to continue to see your friends and sometimes make plans without her. You had a life before her and you need to continue to have a life after her. This is necessary for a healthy relationship. How long have you two been together?

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I don't know how much of a life I had before her. I mean, I juggled like 7 girls at a time because I trusted no one and never really cared about anything, and the days were passing me by. Nothing exciting, just college and such was going on. Hung with my one best friend and other friend.

 

When I met this girl though, I dropped all the other girls. Her and me have been together officially now about 2 months I'd say

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awwww :love: what a sweet story.

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