unbreakablewishes Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 I just found this forum and I really liked it - thanx a lot for creating it. Okey, so my problem is - I was in a country where I went there as an exchange student. Then I met this guy at that college. I liked him a lot even at the first conversation that we had. At that time he was kinna dating with a girl but then they somehow broke up. Then I tried to be closer to him which was a little bit seems like friendship at first but we were spending way too much time together - which was just great:love: One day, I decided to tell him that I am actually interested in him and I did it. The answer was: '' I'm interested in you, why do you think that I'm spending too much time with you. You are great but I'm not looking for a relationship yet as I just got out of a relationship. (For me his thing was not even relationship but he was calling it like that.) I need time'' blaa blaa he said things like that. But the thing was that I didnt have too much time as I was a temporary student at that place. At my last week, before I leave there, he did too much things for me. I melted - lol He prepared parties for me, he went to places that he actually doesnt like at all etc He is freaking cute. But the problem is when we are together, no matter there has always been a distance between each of us, I could kinna feel that it is something different but not friendship but, at the same time he is not looking for a relationship, right now. I miss him a lot right now as I'm back to my country and this question is still bugging my mind. What do you think is this? Can this be love or something else? Thanx
Serenity Silver Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 It's desire and the first stages of 'crushing' on someone. That's my opinion. This guy in my class once said that when you have love for someone it would be stronger than the feeling of losing a parent. Look at it this way if the connection you both had held any ground at all then it's a chance life may lead you two together again, this time in a serious relationship.
boogieboy Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 That guy just wanted to sleep with you and thats it. When he says he doesnt want a relationship, it means he doesnt want a relationship with YOU...but sleeping with you is fine.
Author unbreakablewishes Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 He is just too nice to sleep with me. I'm %100 sure that he has never thought of sleeping with me AT ALL. He has never behaved as if he was creeping on me or someting. You might be right if this situation was different as generally most of the guys think about sex at first. If it was a one night stand - he wouldn't have spent a lot of time with me at first. But if he was thinkin to sleep with me, the situation between me and him would not be this intensive and something between should this potential thing turn into something or not. I mean, we rarely even hugged each other when we were together and even when we are sitting next to each other, we were close but at the same time, we were being really careful for not to be close. I am so confused
ReadyforLove Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 He wanted to sleep with you, and that is not a bad thing. The question is, have you heard from him since returning back to your country?
Author unbreakablewishes Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 I am not saying sleeping with me is a bad thing but what I mean is we have never been close to each other and in this case I can not imagine that he actually wants to sleep with me. I did and I do still talk to him. I talk to him via Internet since the distance is quite far and it wouldnt be good economically for me if I connect him via phone convos, lol.
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