Mrsadpanda Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 First time posting and kind of in a dark place right now... So my girlfriend calls me on Friday (4/9) and tells me she doesn't want to be in our relationship anymore. I was kind of shellshocked and accepted it. I thanked her for all the time we spent together and got off the phone amicably. She cried as she said all this and said that she still cared for me, still wanted me in her life, and said she still loved me but wasn't 'in love' with me. She also said that we could stand a chance at getting back together, but not for awhile. On sunday I freaked out and texted her/called her a bunch of times until she answered. I had a major break down and asked her why she did it. Turns out it was because of a handful of fights we had and after them she didn't feel appreciated. She said she needed space and told me to leave her alone for a couple of days. On Sunday morning I also had flowers delivered to her with a note saying that I hope we could work things out. It's now Wednesday and I haven't heard from her. The flowers were delivered yesterday and I feel like an idiot. What should I do guys? I love this girl more than life itself... Not even a week ago we were talking about our eventual marriage and living together. The break up came abruptly and is killing me. Should I contact her soon since she said a couple of days, or should I wait for her to contact me? If she needs space that's not a problem, but I'd rather her tell me to take a hike if that's what she's planning... Thanks in advance!
luke1081 Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Sounds very similar to what Im going through. DO not contact her. She knows what you want, that is no doubt. The ball is now in her court but prepare yourself for the fact that it may be over. If so, Im sorry, but it seems only time will heal the way you feel. Its been 9 days for me...everyday gets SLIGHTLY (not a lot though) easier.
Author Mrsadpanda Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 Thanks for responding. This really sucks. I understand why she did it and I'm pretty mad at her for just giving up instead of working it through with me, but I guess that's the way it goes. I hate the fact that I talked to her almost every single day for three years and now there is this awkward silence in my life. The only solace I have is that she has a history of getting back together with her boyfriends, but it's almost kind of sad that I'm thinking about that. So I take it when someone says they need space for a few days just let them initiate contact?
theraven Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 My girlfriend did the same thing to me, except it was after 2 years... We would talk about getting married and living together and all that good stuff, and most of the time it was HER that started it. We broke up and she told me she needed space and all that. She just randomly broke up with me, I had done NOTHING wrong. The first week I was annoying the crap out of her, so I finally decided to give her the break she needed from me. We were broken up 13 days and then SHE came up to ME and asked to get back together!!! I must say, we have since broken up again and will not EVER be getting back together. I'm not gonna lie, if it happens once there's a good chance it will happen again. But putting all that aside, if you really do love her like you say you do, give her some space and hope she comes back to you, and when she does, don't EVER let her go again! Whatever you do, don't 100 percent be expecting to get back together. Like he said, keep busy, hit the gym or something. That's what I did, and it definitely keeps your mind busy and not on her. Hang out with the bros man... It helps. Good luck and hope everything turns out well!
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