TooMuchPride Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 I Know Ive Been Making Alot Of Threads Lately But This Just Might Be the Most Important(last) One. facts: (we dated 7 months , broke up 1 month and almost 3 weeks ago , its long distance, will be home in a month plus , still got eelings for him) Shortly after posting my last thread my ex sent me an im on facebook , we spoke casualy for a little then i asked him about a text he sent me at 2 am the night b4 , it was random , n he sed eh was looking at my pics and felt funny so he texted , i didnt ask what he meant , but then he went on to asking me if when i came back home if we would hang out or if we are just online friends, i responded online friends, because 3 weeks after i ended it we didnt talk n i called him , he had been seeing some imediately after we ended , i asked him if we could fix it he said yes but he wasnt going to "throw away" the girl , basically he was trying to play me , i got mad and went back to nc it hurt me that he chose this new girl over me , although i have feelings and want to get back i want it on my terms he has to realize BEFORE i come home or im done , and there has to be NO other girls, about a week ago we spoke and decided t be "just friends" since then he has been so eager to talk to me and i act ike its nothing even tho im eager too , i wondered if it was even a rebound because exes dont typically choose a rebound over a relationship , so it had to have depth ,but after i said just online friends , he got upset and i asked y u upset what did u expect , he said "nun , i g2g now" then i saw him go and write "i think im inlove with you" on the girls wall , n he didnt leave for another 20 minutes, and since then he has completely ignored me , it burned me so much ,it really hurt cause he didnt say that to me and in a month he is telling her that , i know it may be cause he is upset and wanted to anger me or make me jealous or hurt me , or it could also be that he does have more feelings for her , was trying to get me on the side , failed , and is showing me that he doesnt need me and he was just playing , i tried alot to "get him back" and each time it doesnt work, i thought it was when he started texting at weird times and tried to talk to me as much as possible, i may have been to harsh by saying onine friends , but if thats all it takes for him to drop me , then i guess it really wasnt leading to anything, maybe he was testing. so im aksing for your opinion , do you think she is just a rebound or something more(they arent in a relationship? yet but close to it) do you think he did that to piss me off? or he really didnt care anyway , or both? did i say the right thing? is he gonna continue to ignore me? should i just delete n block him? do you think there is any chance of us getting back? or did i ruin it? i think this is the turning point where ill know whats gonna happen , if he comes back and talks to me about it , it will show he actually wants to see something happen , if not , he never really cared in the first place , id just liek to know what you guys think it is.
monkeymaid Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 ive read some of your posts. ...i really think you have too much pressure in every sense going into this situation. a wise man once told me that if you have to ask the questions, you know the answers and are really looking for outside validation. no matter what anyone on here tells you, the truth is still the truth, and reality has to set in for you. yes, he is rebounding. ....his feelings are real, but about this girl they are not. that doesnt mean that he is going to get back with you. all of this talking about friends, and needing him to make a verbal commitmnent, and blah blah blha etc... means that he doesnt want all of the pressure you are putting on everything. you are making this really heavy and dragging yourself and him down with it. lighten up, go into anything with an open mind, and you will come out on top. i guarantee it. you seem to be very combative about him giving you what you want to get him back and organizing the terms of a reconciliation, but in my opinion, if you keep doing that, he just wont come back. lose the expectations because like it or not, he is your ex, and hes dating someone else. ...where do you have the control in this situation?? give up the control, become the happy person you know you are, and this guy will come running! i promise you this. ...mantiain yourself. and he will realize what he misses about you. it will take a while, but it will start clicking, and he will realize!!
Author TooMuchPride Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 ive read some of your posts. ...i really think you have too much pressure in every sense going into this situation. a wise man once told me that if you have to ask the questions, you know the answers and are really looking for outside validation. no matter what anyone on here tells you, the truth is still the truth, and reality has to set in for you. yes, he is rebounding. ....his feelings are real, but about this girl they are not. that doesnt mean that he is going to get back with you. all of this talking about friends, and needing him to make a verbal commitmnent, and blah blah blha etc... means that he doesnt want all of the pressure you are putting on everything. you are making this really heavy and dragging yourself and him down with it. lighten up, go into anything with an open mind, and you will come out on top. i guarantee it. you seem to be very combative about him giving you what you want to get him back and organizing the terms of a reconciliation, but in my opinion, if you keep doing that, he just wont come back. lose the expectations because like it or not, he is your ex, and hes dating someone else. ...where do you have the control in this situation?? give up the control, become the happy person you know you are, and this guy will come running! i promise you this. ...mantiain yourself. and he will realize what he misses about you. it will take a while, but it will start clicking, and he will realize!! wow thanks , that made alot of sense lol.
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