Sadcakesleo Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 I have been broken up for three months and nc for 2. I was doing ok. It hurt but it was for the best. A week ago we talked on the phone for awhile, it was a good conversation. Anyways a long story short, I still have her second car at my apartment. She called last night to get it but I was at the gym. I called her back late last night and said she can come get it. She said she couldn't because she was not at home. That is when I snapped I asked her if she was dating. She said she was and then I asked her if it was anyone specific she said it was none of my business but she had been on a few dates with multiple people. She was getting irritated and got off the phone. My mind was racing, I couldn't control myself, I kept calling and texting for like an hour. Finally later that night she called back and we talked. She said it was none of my business because it didn't concern me. I said that it did because it would help me move on if she was serious with someone. This went on for like an hour. I said I just want to let go and it would help me she told me things. It was the first time I ever asked. She accused me on being controlling and said that after are first conversation a week ago that she actually wanted to talk to me but now I am just acting crazy. I told her that if she wants me to move on and be happy then tell me if she has feelings for someone else. After like forever she finally said no. I don't believe her but whatever. The point is I acted crazy and totally regret it now. I just wanted to know the truth so I can move on and stop hoping there is hope. I even told her that and she still wouldn't tell me. I practically begged her to say she had feelings for another guy so I can let go but she wouldn't say it she just said no. This sucks. I was doing so well too but then I found out she was dating and I blew it. I really don't want her back I just want all these feelings and memories to go away like it has gone away with her. Just looking for support and advice thnx.
D-Lish Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 I just wanted to know the truth so I can move on and stop hoping there is hope. I think it's best to assume it's over and carry on as if it is. You may or may not ever get the truth out of her- why hang your sanity on needing to know something. If she's moved on and is multi-dating, the truth as you know it has to be that she has moved on. Come to grips with that and make your own closure. I'll tell you something, sometimes you think you want to know something, then when you find out- it's a huge set back. We've all had our temporary loss's of sanity due to mental anguish- we've all been there. Don't beat yourself up over it. The best thing to do is get her car out of your lot so you don't have it hanging over your head.
USMCHokie Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 The only thing you need to know for your own "closure" is that you're not with her anymore. It doesn't matter if she is interested in someone else, or dating someone else, or even married to someone else now...and frankly, she's right, it's not your business and you have no right to know. You're not in each others lives any more...you have to realize that and get over it. I went through a REALLY rough night when I was talking to my ex's good friend and found out my ex had been dating a new guy and seemed really interested in him...let me tell you, it's a night I'm VERY ashamed of and wouldn't ever want to go through again...let's just say I had a .40 pistol sitting next to me in my room...but I had left all my rounds in the trunk of my car...and I didn't feel like getting up to get them...but it was a long night talking with a lot of friends... But the bottom line is you don't need to know anything about her life to move on with your life. I am positive that you only want to know she's serious with someone else so you can more comfortably extinguish any hope of another go with her in the near future...but the truth is that you should let go of that hope regardless of whether she's into other guys or not...you two broke up...it's time to move on and see what else life has to offer...if you and her are in the cards one day in the distant future, then so be it...but at this moment in time, you're not...let go...and get rid of that damn car...
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