kbh Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 So my SO and I are long distance. Met last summer and have had a few rocky times. Other than the few times we are so alike and really get along quite well. He's not like any other guy I've met before and I genuinely loved everything about. But anyways here's the story and why I need opinions. I've posted in other forums before so if some of this is a repeat sorry. Last year around November after being distant for a week, which was really unusual, he tells me that he can't do the long distance. That it's too hard for him and that when he's sad that he needs someone there and since I can't be physically there for him, that he feels even worse. At that time I had a plane ticket to go see him for New Years so we both decided that it was in the best interest for me to come and not waste my plane ticket and decide when I left what was best for us. I was honestly planning on that being the last time I saw him... but when it came to it we both didn't want to end it because we both just feel a strong connection and he promised me that he would never put me through that again. So anyways, after I left from New Years, he came a month later to visit me. After being here for 2 weeks and having an amazing time, he went back home. 3 weeks after going home he starts being distant again. Finally when we do talk he says the same thing as before, that it's too hard and that he just can't do it. I was extremely sad but understood, LDR's aren't for everyone no matter how much you love someone. I did NC but he kept emailing me and asking me how I was. I kept not responding but eventually I broke down and asked him why he kept contacting me because usually when people break up they don't stay in contact. He said he still cared about me and his feelings were still there and we didn't break up because of that, but because of the distance. So we continued with limited contact for 3 weeks. One day, I was feeling particularly weak so I went on MSN to talk to him. We had a great conversation and everyone was really good. Him calling me pet names and things just being the same. The next day I went on to talk to him again ans asked him why we were even putting ourselves through heartbreak, seeing as the point of breaking up was to make us happier, not more sad. He said he was just trying to do what was best for both of us... which ended up not being the best! He's even asked me now to come stay with him during the summer and meet his extended family. Anyways, my question is this-- will he think the long distance is too hard and not want it anymore again? Why does he keep changing his mind? Is it good that he changed his mind, meaning that his life was better with me in it??? Thanks so much everyone
skydiveaddict Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 wow thats a tough one, however sounds to me like he doesnt know what he wants I think you should confront him about this whole thing and make him tell you once and for all how he really feels. you dont deserve to be jerked around like this
Author kbh Posted April 25, 2010 Author Posted April 25, 2010 UPDATE: He did it to me again!!! I was all set to come there is summer.. I was so excited and had so many plans.... The other day he broke the news that his family vacation was being bumped up to basically the middle of when I was going to be coming... and that I could no longer come. He said he doesn't want to work on things or try anymore.. I'm so heartbroken. One moment I'm his world, the next he wants nothing to do with me!!! Ughh...
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