Tamia78 Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 I wonder if anyone else feels this way sometimes? I feel like I'm healing pretty well from what my ex did. NC works extremely well for me. I'm dating, but nothing serious.........but I'm kinda ready for that. Thing is I guess the guys I'm dating aren't ready for that. I don't think I'm coming off as desparate or anything, but maybe I am. I'm bored now. I would really like someone to hang out with. My friends are great, but they have their own lives, spouses, kids, and I would just be a 5th wheel. My family is great, and I enjoy hanging out with them, but I'm just ready for that ONE person who's just into me, ya know? I try to go out and do things, but I think the lonliness is starting to get to me. The guys I date are nice, but it's way too early to even think about getting into a relationship at this point. I'm so tired of coming home every day to an empty house, no phone calls, no texts, no nothing. Any suggestions? --T
DontWorryBHappy Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Awww I know what you mean. Aside from doing what you already are (and you're doing amazingly, by the way) I'd suggest doing something totally new... maybe something a bit out of your comfort zone. For example: I've been toying with the idea of taking salsa lessons lately. It's something I've never done and I'm sure I'd have a great time learning it, and it would make me feel better about myself since I'll be taking a chance at doing something out of my comfort zone. The trick is to actually DO it instead of just contemplating it (yes, I need to take my own advice).
skydiveaddict Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Go skydiving you will meet tons of interesting fun available men
USMCHokie Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 (edited) I feel EXACTLY the same way...I'm just bored with life right now...not necessarily because I don't have anything to do to take up my time, which I certainly do, but just bored with life in general...I feel like I'm in a rut... I've been going out a lot more with friends on the weekends...even had quite a Sunday Funday with Erica a couple nights ago...but like you say, Tamia, when I get home every night, I feel the same way...sort of lonely...a sense of a longing for that one person to make it alright again...? And besides, why else would I be on LS at all f'in times of day...and night... Edited April 14, 2010 by USMCHokie
Author Tamia78 Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 Awww I know what you mean. Aside from doing what you already are (and you're doing amazingly, by the way) I'd suggest doing something totally new... maybe something a bit out of your comfort zone. For example: I've been toying with the idea of taking salsa lessons lately. It's something I've never done and I'm sure I'd have a great time learning it, and it would make me feel better about myself since I'll be taking a chance at doing something out of my comfort zone. The trick is to actually DO it instead of just contemplating it (yes, I need to take my own advice). DO IT!!! I've taken a few salsa lessons. (but quit for whatever reason) It's really fun, and most of the people that were in my class were really nice, and apparently get together quite a bit. Sky- I'm afraid of heights, but what better way to get outa my comfort zone, right? USMC-- Hey, I'm right there with you when it comes to being on here all night, lol. Awesome that you have friends like Erica to take up some time as well. USMC actually said it best-- it does feel like I'm just stuck in a rut. My ex and I would call and text each other literally all day and all nite, and when I wasn't at his house, he was at mine. Maybe this is wrong, but I won't feel completely right until I meet someone who does that. I know it's not gonna happen, and there's totally different ways of communicating with people, but it would be nice to have that special bond with someone again. On the other hand, I'm trying to take the time to work on me. I know I'm co-dependent, and wonder if this is just the normal "lonliness" that kicks in whenever I don't have someone in my life. I'm trying to fight that, because it leads to Tamia's EPICALLY BAD decisions. :0) You guys are a big help, thank you!
D-Lish Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 On the other hand, I'm trying to take the time to work on me. I know I'm co-dependent, and wonder if this is just the normal "lonliness" that kicks in whenever I don't have someone in my life. I'm trying to fight that, because it leads to Tamia's EPICALLY BAD decisions. :0) You guys are a big help, thank you! Tamia- just make sure that you don't allow the feeling of lonliness to govern your decisions. You can fill the void with anyone- but it shouldn't be just "anyone"... Being alone is much different than being lonley. I've felt lonley while in a relationship, and that is the worst kind of lonliness. I've been single for so long I don't even know how I will function as part of a couple. The notion of coming home to someone is attractive to me as well- I just want it to be the right person. I'm holding out for that and so should you.
leoine Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 I know how you feel too !! When we broke up there was just this 'hole' in my life and I was missing him sooo much because I think I put too much emphasis and time on him and my life was somewhat organised around him. I kinda regret that - like I know now that I should not give up the life I had for a partner. So now I'm getting my old life back - doing new things, going out more with the girls and generally keeping in better contact with friends. I'm doing uni and the work is just piling up so much - I'm at a point that I wouldn't be able to have the time for a partner ! haha BUT I do still miss SOMEONE being there for you - to cheer you up when you're down and just to cuddle with at the end of the day...sigh....BUT I tell myself that I will find them one day and I just need to concentrate on myself on the meantime.
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