nolanola Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Any advice would be really appreciated. After what seems like a million years of on and off with my ex, I have finally gotten to the point where I want some space from him. We have been NC for a month. I intend to keep it that way for some time. However, my problem is that we work together every so often (usually about once a month or so). We don't work directly together, but are in the same building. He will inevitably come down to my department and talk to me. It usually starts off as "how are you?" and that sort of thing, but he will usually be kind of flirty and we'll banter back and forth for 30 minutes or so. The last time I ran into him, he stood there and told me about his "very good friend" that he was having dinner with and where they were going and all that. Stood there texting her and laughing. It really hurt my feelings because I used to be his best friend. After that interaction, I felt horrible the rest of the day. Anyway, my point is that after a month of NC, I've realized that as much as I miss having him in my life, time away from him is helping me heal. However, I am working at his place in a couple of weeks and am scared he will come and try to talk to me. How can I handle this? We'll be around a lot of other people so I can't tell him to just go away or anything. I am really tired of him throwing me little crumbs, getting his ego stroked by flirting with me, and then just walking away. It's frustrating! Any advice on how to stop this without looking like a total bitch?
D-Lish Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 I am really tired of him throwing me little crumbs, getting his ego stroked by flirting with me, and then just walking away. It's frustrating! Any advice on how to stop this without looking like a total bitch? He can throw you little crumbs, but you don't have to eat them up! The next time he comes to talk to you, tell him you are busy and turn your back on him. Who cares if you look bitchy. He's being a douchbag, and he deserves the bitchy treatment. Don't be concerned with looking like the bad guy by blowing him off. What purpose does it serve to sit there and smile as he talks about a hot date he has lined up? You're being too nice, to your own detriment.
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