Author numbdumbgirl Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 my sympathies to your H(exH ???).....do your first and final favor towards your H get the D...then explore the galaxy... thanks I didnt ask YOU if i should get a D and then explore..matter of fact I was telling a story of my ending affair. If you havent had an affair then why do you comment on this thread? Just to bad mouth people that are hurt? Until you walk in our shoes I'd suggest you should LEAVE this forum!
bentnotbroken Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 thanks I didnt ask YOU if i should get a D and then explore..matter of fact I was telling a story of my ending affair. If you havent had an affair then why do you comment on this thread? Just to bad mouth people that are hurt? Until you walk in our shoes I'd suggest you should LEAVE this forum! Let me get this straight, if you haven't been in an A you shouldn't have an opinion that is posted on this forum:confused:?
U2RockZz Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 (edited) thanks I didnt ask YOU if i should get a D and then explore..matter of fact I was telling a story of my ending affair. If you havent had an affair then why do you comment on this thread? Just to bad mouth people that are hurt? Until you walk in our shoes I'd suggest you should LEAVE this forum! i don't think you came over here for an advise....you want every one to say that you did a good job by having a decade affair and betraying your provider (so called H)...still using him for money and other materialistic needs...if that is what you wanted.... here we go....kudos,bravo...mind blowing, boggling,pumping work... and one more thing you didn't end your A in the first place(you never wanted)...your circumstances lead you to forcefully made you to do that....not out of love for your H or children ...just lack of choice plain and simple.. finally....i definitely prescribe your H to have an immediate STD test,HIV test ,paternity and divorce Edited April 15, 2010 by U2RockZz
Author numbdumbgirl Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 i don't think you came over here for an advise....you want every one to say that you did a good job by having a decade affair and betraying your provider (so called H)...still using him for money and other materialistic needs...if that is what you wanted.... here we go....kudos,bravo...mind blowing, boggling,pumping work... and one more thing you didn't end your A in the first place(you never wanted)...your circumstances lead you to forcefully made you to do that....not out of love for your H or children ...just lack of choice plain and simple.. finally....i definitely prescribe your H to have an immediate STD test,HIV test ,paternity and divorce My H isnt my provider, I live by myself now so thats a laugh, I did end the A when I left him almost 3 years ago and also it wasnt easy to leave my children or H behiind for the unknown of my OM. the affair wasnt a decade do you not know math? I have had 3 sexual partners in mylife thank you, and my tubes have been tied for 15 years way before i met my OM, and as a mature and attractive woman I am I know all about protection. Thanks for your advice, no please go somewhere that your input may be needed, like an ANGER MANAGEMENT forum!
Author numbdumbgirl Posted April 15, 2010 Author Posted April 15, 2010 Let me get this straight, if you haven't been in an A you shouldn't have an opinion that is posted on this forum:confused:? I am saying if you have issues regarding affairs then you dont need to vent and judge people that you dont know where they are coming from. This dude just joined LS if you look at his stats and only bashes threads and hasnt even posted why he came here. He obviously has deep resentment coming from somewhere. I dont agree with alot of things on this site but I dont randomly pick out threads to harrass people who are hurting, even if they are in the wrong, its not my place to judge just comfort them.
U2RockZz Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 My H isnt my provider, I live by myself now so thats a laugh, I did end the A when I left him almost 3 years ago and also it wasnt easy to leave my children or H behiind for the unknown of my OM. the affair wasnt a decade do you not know math? I have had 3 sexual partners in mylife thank you, and my tubes have been tied for 15 years way before i met my OM, and as a mature and attractive woman I am I know all about protection. Thanks for your advice, no please go somewhere that your input may be needed, like an ANGER MANAGEMENT forum! oh, if you are living on your own, why did you say your OM can't provide what your H provides....if you are not living on your H what is that stopping from getting the D....why not be truthful....??? you can not really stand the truth...like any other cheater why i am here..??? i come here on and off to help the people in finding out truth behind people like you....
Author numbdumbgirl Posted April 16, 2010 Author Posted April 16, 2010 Wait? Before you throw stones at this 19 year old girl, you are how old and you moved your family back to his town so you could see if he had grown up (when I think you knew he hadn't) and you are more than ready to throw away your marriage (basically did that already by having an affair with a drug addict felon).... So think about how YOU should KNOW better because you are older. She is a younger woman who is just starting out in life.... She isn't married, she isn't involved with anyone but him...yet she is desperate and dumb? That isn't fair at all - especially considering what you have done in the name of love. He isn't your fairytale (thank GOD) --- let it go. if you need to move again, move. Are you living with your H? Does he know you only moved back to that town to be with the guy??? Wait --- did I just read that you left your children to go to this town to try to get with this drug addict felon??? No my kids are with me and he had told me he was off the drugs and had a good job, i believed him. He has a drug offense on his record from when he was 18, he hasnt been in trouble with the law since, So not all felons repeat. He has a college education BTW Yes my H knows about the Om and he WONT give me a D? I asked he refuses. As for the girl, I look at it this way she is dumb to start her life off in this situation thats gonna effect her the rest of her life..I made my choice later in life to be with him, i knew better, love does that to you, but she dont YET!
Author numbdumbgirl Posted April 16, 2010 Author Posted April 16, 2010 oh, if you are living on your own, why did you say your OM can't provide what your H provides....if you are not living on your H what is that stopping from getting the D....why not be truthful....??? you can not really stand the truth...like any other cheater why i am here..??? i come here on and off to help the people in finding out truth behind people like you.... when you pick a life partner dont you want them to be self sufficent? My OM bought me an engagement ring and wanted to marry me but until he changed I refused. My H wont give me a D..thanks for asking. You dont know the truth so get off my back! Why do you care so much?
bananalaffytaffy Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 I dont agree with alot of things on this site but I dont randomly pick out threads to harrass people who are hurting, even if they are in the wrong, its not my place to judge just comfort them.What does comfort look like to you? What responses were you looking for? This is a SUPPORT forum, not a comfort forum. Part of support means pointing out mistakes and offering suggestions on how to handle things better. Surely, you weren't looking for a pat on the head. Surely you weren't wanting us to bash this single guy for changing his mind about a relationship with a married woman? I still do not understand why you are still blaming him. He had every right to move on. I am sorry you are hurt over how it turned out, but he was not obligated to you in any way. Did I read in another post that you are going to try and salvage your marriage now?
U2RockZz Posted April 16, 2010 Posted April 16, 2010 (edited) when you pick a life partner dont you want them to be self sufficent? My OM bought me an engagement ring and wanted to marry me but until he changed I refused. My H wont give me a D..thanks for asking. You dont know the truth so get off my back! Why do you care so much? you do want D, but your H refused to give you, you do want to be with your OM, but he is not a provider like your H but you are not living on your H cause you are self sufficient yet you dependent on your H heavily(one has to wonder how)....it doesn't really make any sense, is it...??? "He couldnt give me a secure life thats why i couldnt leave my H." is this written by you....when you wanted the D and you said you already living separately...why do you write the s*** like that.... i don't really see any truth in it(can anybody)....does your H really know about your A...at least give him the credit for feeding the cheater like you for years and years.... Edited April 16, 2010 by U2RockZz
pureinheart Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 What sucks is i was actually at a point in my life where i was ready for a divorce. He even got us a place to live lined up for when I got here. I know i hurt him and I know he loved me, but believed our love was worth the wait and we finally had the chance, he didnt give me the chance to prove to him i was serious. Instead he settled for a highschool girl. He did have the decentcy to tell me It had nothing to do with me or my love, that I was amazing and gorgeous and sexy. The chemistry was still there, we got along great. I guess im sad that i let him slip away. i do think your words are wise and have truth behind them and thank you. First, I hope you change your user name to "feelingsmartgirl"....I am hearing a buch of negative self talk, it is why you feel as lousy as you do...anyway, this is as far as I have gotten in your thread and want to respond. In bold, I think they man would have gone in this direction anyway...it's just a feeling I get. Everything happens for a reason, so embrase the pain and look forward to a brighter future...no one is do all end all.....ok gonna read the rest of your thread ((((((((hugggs feelingsmartgirl)))))))
pureinheart Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 i don't think you came over here for an advise....you want every one to say that you did a good job by having a decade affair and betraying your provider (so called H)...still using him for money and other materialistic needs...if that is what you wanted.... here we go....kudos,bravo...mind blowing, boggling,pumping work... and one more thing you didn't end your A in the first place(you never wanted)...your circumstances lead you to forcefully made you to do that....not out of love for your H or children ...just lack of choice plain and simple.. finally....i definitely prescribe your H to have an immediate STD test,HIV test ,paternity and divorce If you read the thread, this isn't the case...
pureinheart Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I am saying if you have issues regarding affairs then you dont need to vent and judge people that you dont know where they are coming from. This dude just joined LS if you look at his stats and only bashes threads and hasnt even posted why he came here. He obviously has deep resentment coming from somewhere. I dont agree with alot of things on this site but I dont randomly pick out threads to harrass people who are hurting, even if they are in the wrong, its not my place to judge just comfort them. This is excellent (bold)...unfortunately "pot shots" are quite regular...time could be spent so much better.
Lizzie60 Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 I have not read the whole thread so maybe this has been said ... OP.. you didn't lose much... this guy was a loser... you had control until he became 'independant' and dating someone else.. then it tickled you .. and you came back to him.. but he already had moved on.. Don't blame him... why would he wait all those years for a woman he wasn't even sure he'd have in the end... Not a big loss.. trust me... you'll get over him... time heals a broken heart... Stay strong..
pureinheart Posted April 17, 2010 Posted April 17, 2010 What does comfort look like to you? What responses were you looking for? This is a SUPPORT forum, not a comfort forum. Part of support means pointing out mistakes and offering suggestions on how to handle things better. Surely, you weren't looking for a pat on the head. Surely you weren't wanting us to bash this single guy for changing his mind about a relationship with a married woman? I still do not understand why you are still blaming him. He had every right to move on. I am sorry you are hurt over how it turned out, but he was not obligated to you in any way. Did I read in another post that you are going to try and salvage your marriage now? Hopefully this forum is mature enough to have both...support should be encouraging. Sometimes we don't always communicate or even think of stating every fact in the OP...in asking the questions and getting the gaps filled in should be in a supportive and encouraging manor. We find out later in her thread that she wasn't looking for a pat or whatever. Bashing anyone is never ok.
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