spookie Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 i have calmed down since sunday, when i wanted to end my non-labeled relationship for perceived minor greivances. now i realize i want to end it because i want to find someone i like as much as i like my boss. there's the truth. i'm not even close to over it yet. i went to mexico a few weeks ago and instead of missing my bf i fantasized about my boss all day long. we had a bit of a showdown today, wherein he tried to calm me down by singing my praises. he said i was a "really smart girl," "quiet- in a good way, but easy to talk to," and that i might not know it, but he feels a tremendous amount of loyalty toward the person on his team aka me, and is unhappy when im unhappy. beating a dead horse one last time... does it sound like he possibly likes me??? he's still single... i could look for another job starting in may (tho for tactical reasons careerwise i think itd be best if i stayed where i am for a couple more years).
Rorschach Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Based on the info provided, difficult to make a solid conclusion. Could just be a nice boss. Then again all men want all women, so if you're attractive and he's single chances are he wants you, but it might not be allowed to date your boss anyway.
shadowplay Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 Spookie, I totally understand how you feel because I've had intense crushes on guys I'm not with before (I also once had a raging crush on a boss), but bear in mind the way you see him now IS NOT who he really is. Not only is that certain, but there's a good possibility that if you were to ever date him, you'd find the two of you were incompatible and he'd really hurt you. Did you know I had an intense crush on my ex for a year before we started going out? My image of him was different from what he turned out to be when we were together. I loved him, but I could never have forseen the problems he has or how much he would hurt me. It just brought home to me that you never really know someone when pining for them from a distance. You just don't. What you think they are is never the same, and with the expectations you have you're bound to be disappointed. In a way it was good for me to have that experience, because it will probably prevent me from ever pining like that again.
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