bluz73 Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 So my ex's new GF now works with some people I know, Well great and now she is trashing me and I am on the verge of either beating her ass or contacting her...What should I do? Im already devastated and hurt over the break up but this witch is making me steam tonight!
alphamale Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 just relax and don't do anything. you'll be glad in the morning
skydiveaddict Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 dont do any thing. but if you're provoked, go for the butt-kickin
Author bluz73 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 dont do any thing. but if you're provoked, go for the butt-kickin I know it shouldnt matter or should it? but now he hates me because of her and I some how cant hate him and wish I could!
skydiveaddict Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 I've reconsidered and I agree w/woggle. dont get pulled into their crap
Author bluz73 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 Don't let yourself get pulled into their crap. And to top it off she is bragging about her "settlement" she so conviently was awarded in Jan the month she moved in with him at his parents place(i wonder why he is with her)..and how they are signing an apt lease together thursday, knowing my peeps will tell me..i cant believe this crap is bothering me he isnt worth it he is not even the man i deserve so why cant i just blow it off..UGH!
Author bluz73 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 UGH I SENT IT!!!!!!!!!!! Im advising you to stop the trash talk on me..I am friends with people at resort quest, I used to work there, just please keep me out of your gossip!
skydiveaddict Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 And to top it off she is bragging about her "settlement" she so conviently was awarded in Jan the month she moved in with him at his parents place(i wonder why he is with her)..and how they are signing an apt lease together thursday, knowing my peeps will tell me..i cant believe this crap is bothering me he isnt worth it he is not even the man i deserve so why cant i just blow it off..UGH! You will find someone better. I know you will
Author bluz73 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 You will find someone better. I know you will she is blaming me for harrassing her when i dont even know her number or email nothing WTF?
Author bluz73 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 You will find someone better. I know you will now she is threatening me to call the cops cause i messaged her via facebook not to bother me WTF?
cdt76 Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 She is nuts. Your ex is nuts. Let them be nutty together.
Toki Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 Staying aloof and out of contact seems the best course in this situation, eventually the dog will stop frothing at the mouth because of you and she'll find another victim. Probably your ex after he realizes she's bat s*** crazy and needs to get the hell out before it's too late. By the time it happens, you be recovering and moving on with life.
BlueeyedJonesy Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 If your "friends" had any respect for you they wouldn't be running back and forth to you when they know that it will do no good, instead they would tell her to stop talking about you because you are friends with them. why don't they do this? because people love drama...its sick. don't sink to her level..you will come out on top!
sean1970 Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 It is likely that you don't feel you look all that great to your ex (we know it should not matter but we all care(d) to some degree). How will you look if you flip out? You having control and being calm shows class. Don't let her take that from you and, by all means, don't give it to her gift wrapped. Keep your chin up...
Author bluz73 Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 It is likely that you don't feel you look all that great to your ex (we know it should not matter but we all care(d) to some degree). How will you look if you flip out? You having control and being calm shows class. Don't let her take that from you and, by all means, don't give it to her gift wrapped. Keep your chin up... thanks sean...him and i have been over for 6 months and they keep popping up in my life thru mutual friends and I am so ready to move out of town...look at my recent posts, I was on a high feeling great then BOOM they blindsided me. I guess My friends need to keep their stories they here about them to theirselves..altough I feed on curiousity, hoping they fall apart..I did message her via FB and told her to keep me out of their gossip. Sometimes I feel like I am gonna snap and find her and beat the **** out of her, but then I'd be in jail and my kids would be motherless
sean1970 Posted April 14, 2010 Posted April 14, 2010 I never really understood, or felt, the need to react to the new SO. In your case, I guess she is causing you trouble directly, so noted. If it is affecting work in a tangible way, take it to a boss. In the end, you just add fuel and fodder the more you engage either of them directly. Not that you have done anything off the chart (I trust), but the last thing you want to look like is "psycho ex" to them or others at work. If your 'friends' are giving her face time, you have other things to evaluate as well.
looseleaf2004 Posted April 15, 2010 Posted April 15, 2010 I'm going to tell you from my recent personal experience, it might not seem like it now but you will do more damage by not saying anything at all. (Even though you basically kinda ruined that option by sending a facebook message). My ex g/f was smearing my name to some of my mutual friends and you know what I did nothing. Never mentioned her name, the relationship, or anything to them. Whenever I was around them I was quote on quote "happy" and saved how I really felt about things to friends that were solely just mine. If you respond, it just shows that it bothers you and obviously you still care. Show that you dont' care by not even entertaining it. It doesnt' matter what she says anyway. Your real friends will not change their opinion of you b'cuz of some stuff that your psycho ex g/f is spreading about you.
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