Gemmi Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 I'm ashamed to stay that I have layed in bed for the last two days moping about my on off relationship, why is it that when you know in your head that something is so wrong for you but your heart holds you back I so want to let go and move on but I dont know how, especially when he tells me he loves me but cant help being jealous..... I wish I could make this know in my stomache dissapear, please help
skydiveaddict Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 You know how. If this guy is so non committal cut him loose. there are others out there for you that's for sure
sally4sara Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 I'm ashamed to stay that I have layed in bed for the last two days moping about my on off relationship, why is it that when you know in your head that something is so wrong for you but your heart holds you back I so want to let go and move on but I dont know how, especially when he tells me he loves me but cant help being jealous..... I wish I could make this know in my stomache dissapear, please help You are looking to having a relationship as a way to validate yourself. Try to make a list of all the qualities about yourself than you are proud of. Make another list of why you are a good person and good deeds you've done. THAT is what makes you worthwhile and it has nothing to do with who you're dating or even if you are dating. The things you recognize are why you should not put up with mistreatment from anyone. Realize this, and you will be better at picking a partner that is right for you. It could be that you find the idea of being alone so sad because of who you've been dating. Dating someone who treats you like you'll screw anything with a penis, incapable of dressing yourself appropriately, or choosing your own friends can really eat at your self confidence. People do this to instill in their partner a sense of being unworthy of their love - you always find yourself trying to prove yourself to them. You so busy doing that, that you never concern yourself about if they are worthy of you. It is a mind game and maybe you're just thinking with the head he messed up?
Author Gemmi Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 Sally, Thank you, your words really mean alot. I didn't think of it as him being worthy of having me, I always try to prove myself to him which does take much energy, He always did play mind games, you know the usual like not calling after a row etc and I would be the one who broke first, but he is also very caring and loving...well he must have had some good qualities. Why do people play games?! It really does mess your head up!! I know what I have to do, i've just got to find the courage. Thank you again
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