Bartender Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 (edited) I'm recently new to the dating game after a 6 yr. relationship ended last summer and I just started talking to someone new for the first time in years and I'm a little rusty and some help in the following situation. I met this extremely cute woman at work last month and we'd always smile at each other, small talk, etc., but within the past month she approached me and we've been out, talked and texted regularlly for the past month and there's definately physical chemistry there. I know for a fact she's single and has a young child of her own and seems to have a good head on her shoulders. The problem I'm having is that she never initiates any type of communication with me (phone, text, etc.) and it's up to me to call or intiate conversation or there wouldn't be any. I end up calling or texting her probably more often than I'd like to because she's very difficult to read in this sense and I realize that can be a big turnoff. My question is, should I let her be and wait for her to make the next contact before I pursue her any further?? Edited April 13, 2010 by Bartender
zhsoj Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Depends on you man. Personally I dated a girl like this and discovered it wasn't for me. If you're bothered by it, and you seem to be, then I would suggest backing off now and seeing if she pursues you at all. Just make sure you stick to your guns and don't be surprised if you don't hear anything from her.
ReadyforLove Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Don't assume that she is not interested, she might just be the type of woman who likes for the man to take the lead. If you are comfortable with this then you should keep pursing her. If this just isn't your thing then you might be better off dating a woman who initiates communication a little more.
norajane Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 within the past month she approached me Sounds like she is the one who initiated. My guess is she would not have done that if she had no interest in you. However, if you don't like the current dynamic, you have a choice to continue pursuing or not. Do you really need to be calling and texting a lot? I think what you should be doing is asking her out on dates, not calling and texting all the time. Save your conversations for the dates.
boogieboy Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Yes, wait for her to take initiative. If she doesnt, then she wasnt that into you, and you should move on. When you keep calling and texting her, she doesnt have to look for you.
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