385 Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Ok, so there is a very annoying thing my GF does - she teases me about something I don't like to be teased about. The thing itself is very trivial, so it's nothing big, but just happens to be a HUGE pet peeve of mine. I've told her I did not like it and to stop it, but I've never done it in a serious tone because I like her playful attitude - just not this particular thing she teases me about. I don't want her to change her attitude - just her topic. But, I've having hard time getting her to stop it. Since I haven't been forceful about it, she continues to do it. So now I'm in a conundrum. So here are my choices: 1) From past experience, if I sit down with her and have a serious conversation about it, she gets defensive, offended, and upset. This puts a strain on our relationship. 2) If I tell her in a less serious tone like I have before, she continues to do it. 3) If I ignore the problem, then I get very annoyed each time she does it. So what should I do? I really just want to slap her across the face and tell her to shut up some times - but that doesn't really help out our relationship.
ADF Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 It isn't mean to stand up for yourself, to tell someone who is out of line to knock it off. Next time she does this, go ahead and tell her in a firm, clear tone that she needs to stop doing it. If she's at all a reasonable person, she'll see you're serious and stop.
Sevenscars Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Next time she teases you, tell her not to do that. If she does it again, walk out. Do not put up with it! Take a day to rest and wait for her to contact you. If she wants to talk about it, be empathetic, compassionate, and caring, but firm and serious. It's not right that she treat you in a way you specify she not treat you. If she doesn't stop, then she's not worth your time (as obviously your feelings are not worth her time). She most likely thinks she's doing something harmless and funny, so there's no reason to be mean to her or have a "serious conversation," just state that you don't like it and why, and that should be good enough, given that she respects you. If it's not, she has no respect for you, and you have bigger problems there.
Author 385 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 Thanks guys! Sounds good, I'll do that the next time she does it.
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