How should i reply to this text.

[lovemenace]

Id like to go into more detail but im looking for quick advice, me and my gf of 1.5 yrs broke up recently, not for the first time, weve been back and forth due to petty arguments. no cheating, jealousy etc. The last time, 9 days ago she said i should move on, i went for 8 days nc just fine, then had insane dreams which led me to texting her. i sent her a few to long of messages saying the perfect things, so i thought. then she replied with 1 sentence responses. i know what i should do, and what is right, however, i asked her if i could come cook for her and see her new place, she recently moved. she replied back with, i dont know if thats a good idea, name :/. usually when we did :/ it was something as if we were sad, as if shes sad she had to say that. now i could take that as a no, but i feel i should reply with something like, "your right, that does seem a little haste, would lunch be better?" or something to those lines, any advice?

[sorryeyes]

Id like to go into more detail but im looking for quick advice, me and my gf of 1.5 yrs broke up recently, not for the first time, weve been back and forth due to petty arguments. no cheating, jealousy etc. The last time, 9 days ago she said i should move on, i went for 8 days nc just fine, then had insane dreams which led me to texting her. i sent her a few to long of messages saying the perfect things, so i thought. then she replied with 1 sentence responses. i know what i should do, and what is right, however, i asked her if i could come cook for her and see her new place, she recently moved. she replied back with, i dont know if thats a good idea, name :/. usually when we did :/ it was something as if we were sad, as if shes sad she had to say that. now i could take that as a no, but i feel i should reply with something like, "your right, that does seem a little haste, would lunch be better?" or something to those lines, any advice?

I know what ur goin thru...he says its not a good idea to talk or meet up...WHY? I guess it prolongs the pain and if they are still attracted to you they might want to hook up and that would make it worse. I'd say nothing and let her go she will eventually call u when she thinks you gave up

[Ronni_W]

i know what i should do ... however,

You already know what would be best for you to do for yourself, about this situation...why not just listen to your own "wiser self", and follow its instructions?

 

A different reason that she typed :/ is cos she was sad (as in upset) that [1] you asked to go cook for her in the first place and, [2] you're ignoring that she told you to move on.

[The Non-Student]

I agree with the others. You know what's best. Even though it's hard, NC is the way to go. It's just going to make you feel worse. When she said "I don't think that's a good idea," she wasn't suggesting that you do something less intense. She was saying that it's not a good idea for you to see each other.

[Agent Thomas]

Tell her "You're right, it isn't a good idea to make you dinner. You're fat enough as it is"

 

Then disappear

[ADF]

My advice is that you stop talking to each other. I don't know either one of you, but the relationship dynamic you describe is familiar. You sound like two people who can neither get along not let go of each other. People like you two often lose YEARS of their lives going back and forth in a vicious breakup/makeup/breakup cycle. And it rarely ends with the two of them together in a happy, stable relationship.

[LoveLace]

She's making efforts to move on with her life and encourage you to do the same. Moving to a new place likely feels like a new start for her, so having you there would interrupt this. It's always hard to let go cold turkey after a break up. But it must be done at some point. It wouldn't hurt if you also took up something new and interesting to you so that you can also feel sense of a fresh beginning.