stanlovesJ Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Ok so let's say theres a girl at school that i like , but she is richer (parents have more money) than my family and she is sort of a preppy , fashion girl. Well let's say i bring her over to my house and she sees our cars. If her parents have more than mine , is that like a turn off to her? Were not poor we have a house that is about 10 years old , live in a decent area, but i have always been bothered by this.
Pfiend101 Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 If it turns her off shes shallow and not worth your time. Sometimes this is the case with the type of girl you speak of, sometimes not. Don't be embarrassed of yourself or your family. Some people are born into money and others have to work hard for it. My ex's family didn't like the fact I worked construction, thought construction was for idiots and didn't pay well. I never told her how much I made but I know for a fact it is more then her father and very close to the same as her mother.
Sevenscars Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 If it turns her off shes shallow and not worth your time. I know you'll have more questions, so I'm going to go ahead and pre-answer them for you: If it turns her off shes shallow and not worth your time. If it turns her off shes shallow and not worth your time.
marsle85 Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 If you treat her better than any other macho-money-man has, she won't even notice. I mean better dates. Not more expensive--- more creative, more sensual, more adventurous but still lavish. She'll want to feel special and you should spoil her. It's not a money issue. You don't have to be a millionaire to pack a picnic lunch. The truth is - people use money as a way to show their affection. So she's probably been with guys who have done this. But affection is affection, regardless, and comes in many different tenders.
Green Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Seriously stop looking for excuses to not make a move on this girl already. Your lack of confidence in yourself is the only turn off you should worry about.
threebyfate Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 The easiest way to figure out if this bothers her, is to take her to your house. She'll tell you soon enough if this is important to her or not. But more importantly, do you know how to treat her? This will probably be more indicative of whether or not she'll want to date you.
Author stanlovesJ Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 Seriously stop looking for excuses to not make a move on this girl already. Your lack of confidence in yourself is the only turn off you should worry about. hey man thanks a lot for the bump!
Mr White Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Meh, level of wealth of her family per se doesn't matter, it'll boil down to her character. Chances are she is either a 1) sane, cool girl who, due to secure and stress free life so far, is far more likely to focus on your own character/substance/other qualities than on your money (or lack of) or 2) a spoiled, stuck up bitch that has never faced any real hardship in her life and feels entitled to high standard of living. Use common sense, and if she's 1) propose within a reasonable time.
cooldudeinberlin Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 are you in high school? who cares? but I would assume in High School, when there is very little substance in anyone and barely any character developed... it probably would matter... people, in their silly little ways, see OPM (other people's money aka: parents) as some sort of status thing.... that is the real irony... as your parent's money ISNT YOURS nor are you responsible for earning it, etc. The advice about creating a obscure, interesting, out of the box date might be wasted on a High School girl... how much development, character and personality can they really have at this age to even appreciate something "different"?
xpaperxcutx Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 Well there are certain girls who are privy to materialism. Have she commented on your family's financial situation?
Author stanlovesJ Posted April 14, 2010 Author Posted April 14, 2010 are you in high school? who cares? but I would assume in High School, when there is very little substance in anyone and barely any character developed... it probably would matter... people, in their silly little ways, see OPM (other people's money aka: parents) as some sort of status thing.... that is the real irony... as your parent's money ISNT YOURS nor are you responsible for earning it, etc. The advice about creating a obscure, interesting, out of the box date might be wasted on a High School girl... how much development, character and personality can they really have at this age to even appreciate something "different"? hey man youre so right ! thanks alot!
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