Lucky555 Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 So after all my rant about this guy whom i believed I was getting over. I just had a hard time just ending it again! he has good qualities as a friend but not as more (as far as i can tell). So i found out about the ex situation. Recently he went out to dinner with her......I was MAD. He never told me he was in contact with his ex and that they dated occasionally. We are more than just friends or were. Apparently he is just friends and they have known each other for a long time. He claims nothing romantically is going on. (Ok so why was she on his computer updating his stuff online? This is the only way i found out that he was going out with her. Secondly, I told him how it made me feel that he was seeing her but not spending time with me. (NO REPLY). I was angry for days thinking he lied to me about this and i couldn't just leave without knowing! I wanted him to come out and be honest and say what was going on..which i suppose he did. In some ways I felt he "hid" this from me because he didn't tell me this in the beginning. However, even though I want to believe him about them being friends it just doesn't make sense that she was over at his place, using his online profile, and they were going out to dinner together. When i have not seen him in oh a couple months!!! Things were on and off and we had issues and worked them out. So because we were both busy he and I just kept in touch. HOWEVER, then this happened. I feel so much less angry because I found out the truth. He tried to say they are living far away from each other and she visits seldom. (This i did not know. I thought she was completely out of his life because he told me he was less and less in contact with her as time went by..this was an issue i was concerned about because she keeps trying to be with him) I dont expect people to just cut others off because they are ex's but after reading what you read...DO any of you think this is weird????? He and I are just dating. He is not obligated to tell me anything. But don't i have a right to be informed if he and we were "supposedly dating just each other" I feel like I have been on and off with this guy. At times i felt manipulated and other times I was swooped in by his charm. If i need him he will be available (a good friend), if i want to spend time with him well then he just isn't available. Obviously something is off. I was more mad and needing to know the honest truth from the guy and i felt way better knowing he could talk about it with me. But as good as the talk went the issue is still there and I'm feeling like i have been feeling which is still not contacting him to move on. I know its drama, but i just want to know what you think of the ex thing.
2sunny Posted April 13, 2010 Posted April 13, 2010 it doesn't matter what anyone thinks. you said it's over. why are you bothering to waste your time and energy when it's over. move forward... it's best for you.
Author Lucky555 Posted April 13, 2010 Author Posted April 13, 2010 Yeah I guess it doesn't matter I am trying to rationalize my decision. It's not like I want to hate the guy. I just want peace within myself and knowing that what another thinks helps me because I can't think right with emotions clouding them. I'm mostly dissapoinated with the guy now just with everyhing.
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